I googled around just now for some benchmarks on the overhead of FFIs. I found this project [1] which measures the FFI overhead of a few popular languages. Java and Go do not look competitive there; Lua came surprisingly on top, probably by inlining the call.
Before you retort with an argument that a few cycles do not matter that much, remember that OpenSSL does not run only in laptops and servers; it runs everywhere. What might be a small speed bump on x86 can be a significant performance problem elsewhere, so this is something that cannot be simply ignored.
Considering that in C the plusone call is 4 or so cycles, and the Java example is 5 times slower, that's only 20 or so cycles. If the function we're FFIing into is 400 cycles, that's only a 1% decrease in speed. I'm willing to pay that price if it means not having to wake up to everything being vulnerable every couple of months.
There are other means of achieving a secure implementation, such as programming in a very high-level language, such as Cryptol, and compiling to a low-level language:
http://tab.snarc.org/posts/haskell/2012-07-07-building-a-bet...
For the other points there is some debate, but don't most serious languages have a C FFI?