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Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by benihana on Sunday November 10, 2013 @10:44AM (#6706813)
I hate these kinds of posts. It's a guy who thinks he knows more than he does trying to tell the most successful social network in history how to make things 'better' for an extremely tiny sample size that he thinks is much more significant and representative. It's just so arrogant and short sighted and comes at it from such a limited perspective. That's bad enough, without it being coupled to the fact that facebook is completely free and optional and no one is forcing you to use it.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by redwood on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:20AM (#6707053)
Quite the contrary: he's not telling them how to make it better.

He's telling them that intuitively it has gone from being a good experience to being a shitty one, and he provided some examples of what good was and could be.

CAN facebook cut through the noisy garbage and give people what they want again? Can they pull this off when folks have befriended people that aren't really their friends?

Perhaps not.. it's not an easy technological challenge to pull off. But it's clear that FB is focused primarily on extracting cash in the near term before the collapse of its user base, and that's putting it into a death spiral where they don't appear to be doing much to address these intuitions.

It's hard to find something more valuable, in a consumer product, than intuition.

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by calinet6 on Sunday November 10, 2013 @12:04PM (#6707296)
Furthermore, it's not some super rare occurrence that a large corporation that has long departed from its in-touch startup roots forgets how to have that intuition.

For that reason alone, posts like this from individuals to large companies are valuable, and the argument that it's invalid because somehow the large corporation knows better is the opposite of true.

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by abus on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:21AM (#6707055)
Damn I accidentally upvoted you before I got to the end. Facebook is not optional, you are forced to use it or be left out of a huge amount of social interaction, and it's not because Facebook is good, it's because everyone uses it.

Not to mention my college literally requires you to use it.

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by mhurron on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:36AM (#6707138)
> you are forced to use it or be left out of a huge amount of social interaction

That is still optional.

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by jobu on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:58AM (#6707263)
So is basic hygiene, but you can't expect to be successful in life without that either. That may sound somewhat hyperbolic, but as Facebook increases it's reach it is becoming true.

Your personal network is often critical for finding spouses, or jobs; it can provide helping hands when things go wrong, and for most people it's a source of happiness.

For better or worse, Facebook has appropriated the personal networks of a majority of people in our society. It is possible to opt out of Facebook, just like you can opt out of society and go live in a shack in the woods.

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by mhurron on Sunday November 10, 2013 @12:09PM (#6707321)
>So is basic hygiene, but you can't expect to be successful in life without that either.

An option does not mean that something is exactly equivalent or that it does not come with side effects.

>It is possible to opt out of Facebook, just like you can opt out of society and go live in a shack in the woods.

Definitely not in a shack, definitely not on Facebook.

You, like a lot of people in the thread, see Facebook as required because 'everyone' uses it, except everyone uses it because it is required. Your own hangups or how it will be perceived by others makes you look on it as if it was required and not just something you chose to do one day.

Honestly a friend that won't interact with you unless you have a Facebook account isn't someone I would call a friend.

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by jobu on Sunday November 10, 2013 @12:32PM (#6707425)
It's not that Facebook is required to have social interactions, but you're effectively cutting yourself off from a majority of society because it has become an expected norm. I have "real friends" that I used to talk to over the phone somewhat regularly. Facebook has taken over that network of people and now we post or chat on Facebook.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by holri on Sunday November 10, 2013 @01:04PM (#6707611)
I experience that not using Facebook has positive filter effects. People that do not understand that I do not like FB are not my friends. Facebook is therefore a good knife to cut me off drivel.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by lowkeykiwi on Sunday November 10, 2013 @03:15PM (#6708223)
If I didn't use facebook in London then I would simply miss every social invitation that I am given. Many people only use it because of this and would drop it otherwise.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by throwaway2048 on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:50AM (#6707219)
so was selling yourself into bondage in the Middle Ages, after all you always had the choice to starve to death.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by speeder on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:50AM (#6707217)
Depends, if you can live as a hermit, then maybe yes. But my circle of contacts for example communicate with Facebook only, and I am already a not social person, if I deleted my Facebook I would spend months before getting. Invited to a party or funeral
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by mhurron on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:59AM (#6707270)
It's impossible to have friends that don't use facebook?

It would seem that Facebook is 'required' because you see some requirement to interact with people that won't talk to you in any other way. That is also a choice you made.

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by speeder on Sunday November 10, 2013 @05:15PM (#6708696)
Currently what I do is move as needed to get money as needed, and the places where I ended so far everyone else as only passing through too, so new friendships don't have the chance to form.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by hnha on Sunday November 10, 2013 @04:47PM (#6708583)
no, of course it's not. But friendships are not something you can plan or form like that.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by yesimahuman on Sunday November 10, 2013 @01:16PM (#6707682)
Deleted mine two months ago. I'd say it's absolutely optional. I still talk all the time with my friends on Twitter, Text Message, Phone, etc. And I rarely find sites that only have Facebook login.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by frostmatthew on Sunday November 10, 2013 @12:07PM (#6707308)
> Not to mention my college literally requires you to use it.

How so?

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by gum_ina_package on Sunday November 10, 2013 @10:49AM (#6706856)
I think that's very cynical to say because you could say that about the majority of the posts on this site. HN is a place for people who understand the issues/live in the tech scene to debate, discuss, and disagree with each other about issues like the article.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by mproud on Sunday November 10, 2013 @10:57AM (#6706912)
May be, but I always liked most of the articles posted because they bring insightful remarks. Obviously this article falls short.

Don’t whine about stupid things with Facebook. Tell us things we don’t know, that we’re not aware of, or bring powerful analysis to things that truly matter.

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by redwood on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:23AM (#6707070)
I hear you, but think that while the article in and of itself doesn't do or say too much; its presence and popularity here makes it into something more.

This sentiment has now been blessed by a lot of technology insiders. It's a common set of feelings, perhaps not well put but nevertheless captured something we're feeling.

FB employees: heed this warning. We your early adopters will leave if you don't fix it.

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by Killswitch on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:33AM (#6707120)
> It's a common set of feelings, perhaps not well put but nevertheless captured something we're feeling.

Exactly, sorry I'm not a great writer, I'm a programmer. :(

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by paulrouget on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:02AM (#6706937)
Here OP is not "debating". He's being aggressive and condescending.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by brymaster on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:25AM (#6707081)
> optional and no one is forcing you to use it.

Optional like the sites that have "sign in via facebook" and no other option?

Optional in that they track your every move from "like buttons" all over the web?

Or optional that they develop shadow profiles on users that aren't even users?

Which optional is it?

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by furyofantares on Sunday November 10, 2013 @12:06PM (#6707306)
I don't care for the "it's optional" argument in general -- it's fair for users of an optional service to voice their opinion on how it could be better for them. As a developer that's something I want users to do. And I've learned to filter out tone when their tone could use a little work (or a lot, in OP's case.)

But in any case, you've failed to rebut the "it's optional" argument. None of your examples are related to OP's complaint about using the activity feed to keep up with friends.

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by brymaster on Sunday November 10, 2013 @12:12PM (#6707332)
Missing the sentence where the parent comment mentioned "using the activity feed to keep up with friends." Seems your rebut about my rebut failed, actually.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by abraininavat on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:32AM (#6707116)
> Optional like the sites that have "sign in via facebook" and no other option?

Yes. Or are you under the impression that those sites are also not optional?

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by brymaster on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:34AM (#6707127)
If one wants to log into a website that isn't facebook, one shouldn't be forced to have a login from a "social network" they don't use.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by chaz on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:38AM (#6707148)
Shouldn't you be blaming the site for only giving you only one option? Why didn't they provide a second?
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by KyeRussell on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:41AM (#6707163)
If someone wants to use a website, they should use the website. If they don't want to use the website (this includes the login mechanism) then they don't. If your belief that Facebook logins are a bad thing is widespread, people will stop only implementing Facebook logins because it's a bad business decision. Stop whining because the market doesn't agree with you.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by brymaster on Sunday November 10, 2013 @12:16PM (#6707351)
> If someone wants to use a website, they should use the website.

…except when that website first make you use facebook.

> If your belief that Facebook logins are a bad thing is widespread, people will stop only implementing Facebook logins because it's a bad business decision.

These things are a slow process.

> Stop whining because the market doesn't agree with you.

Luckily, my "whining" (the part about the social logins that you could only argue against, my privacy points were bulletproof and spot-on) is backed up by evidence:

http://www.emarketer.com/Article/Privacy-Concerns-Keep-Users...

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=5408735

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=4603204

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by sbarre on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:39AM (#6707150)
That's not really Facebook's fault though.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by avmich on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:53AM (#6707233)
Are you sure that it isn't something somehow related to Facebook which makes those site to use Facebook login, and not, say, its own?
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by tedunangst on Sunday November 10, 2013 @01:51PM (#6707853)
What is this something that forces sites to use FaceBook login and not implement their own?
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by Killswitch on Sunday November 10, 2013 @02:55PM (#6708129)
People who complain about yet another login they have to use when "you can just use Facebook or Twitter to login"
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by tedunangst on Sunday November 10, 2013 @05:46PM (#6708814)
That's an argument for implementing both Facebook and native logins. It's not an argument for refusing to implement native logins at all.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by lowkeykiwi on Sunday November 10, 2013 @03:16PM (#6708225)
twitter accounts are the best near-universal logins. fast to setup, complete anonymity and easy 2 click comment signin.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by Killswitch on Sunday November 10, 2013 @03:29PM (#6708287)
I agree, but it still comes back to the same problem. Relying on another site membership. What if SiteA uses Twitter to login because they don't want to make people have yet another login account, but I don't have a Twitter account... Great, so now I have to sign up at Twitter to sign up at SiteA... Making me have to have an account at a site I don't want to have an account at, just to have an account at a site I DO want to have an account at, just because Twitter is more popular.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by timmm on Sunday November 10, 2013 @02:07PM (#6707919)
That's as arbitrary as saying you must have pink hair to use my website. It's a dumb decision on the companies behalf, and for that reason not a legitimate concern with reputable companies.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by calinet6 on Sunday November 10, 2013 @12:07PM (#6707307)
This is simply a discussion of quality. Optional things may still be evaluated.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by Houshalter on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:58AM (#6707264)
>facebook is completely free and optional and no one is forcing you to use it.

First of all you should be able to complain and criticize even free services. Second Facebook is pretty much a monopoly. Everyone you know uses facebook, therefore you have to use facebook. It's not like you can just go to a different social network. It's a great example of the Network Effect (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Network_effect).

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by anon1385 on Sunday November 10, 2013 @11:48AM (#6707202)
>the fact that facebook is completely free and optional and no one is forcing you to use it.

This is highly simplistic. Moxie gave a good talk a few years back that covered this idea that we have a 'choice' about using new communication technologies like smartphones, and the arguments apply just as much to social networks

Changing Threats To Privacy From Tia To Google (Blackhat 2010) by Moxie Marlinspike http://www.securitytube.net/video/1084

I've transcribed the relevant part[1]:

I think if you look at the way that people tend to organise in groups and communities, there are often informal communications networks that bind them together, that allow them to communicate, make plans, coordinate activities. If you introduce something like the GSM cellular network to this group, and if I start using it, I am subject to something that is very well known called the No Network Effect. If I am the only one with a cell phone it's really not worth very much. The value of the network is in the number of people that are connected to it and that if I'm the only one I can't really communicate with anyone.

However if I somehow manage to get everyone to start using my communications network it becomes very effective and very valuable. But there is an interesting side effect, which is that the old informal mechanisms people use to communicate and to collaborate disappear, that they are destroyed by the introduction of technology. The technology actually changes the social fabric of how people communicate and coordinate. Mobile phones, there are many obvious examples. People used to make plans, they would say: "I'll meet you on this street corner at this time on this day and, you know, we'll do something" and now people say "I'll call you when I'm getting off work" or "I'll text you" and if you don't have a mobile phone you can't really participate in this type of organisation and you begin to find yourself kind of alone. Because if I now make a choice not to be a part of this cellular network, there is sort of an interesting thing where once again I am subject to the no network effect. The network that used to exist, the informal communications channels, has been destroyed.

So yes, I made a choice to have a mobile phone, but what kind of choice did I make? I think this is sort of an interesting phenomenon. What happens is a choice is introduced; it starts as a very simple choice: the choice of whether or not to have a mobile phone, a simple piece of technology. But slowly things happen to expand the scope of that choice until eventually it's so big as to encompass not just whether you have a mobile phone or not but whether you want to be a part of society. In some ways the choice to have a mobile phone today has become not necessarily just whether you have a piece of consumer electronics in your pocket but whether or not you are even a part of society, and that's a much bigger choice. Maybe not one that we should have to make, or at least maybe one that isn't really a choice at all.

[1] originally transcribed for this thread: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=3451313

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by personlurking on Sunday November 10, 2013 @01:06PM (#6707627)
Very interesting.

The one thing tech has kind of changed is that you can participate in social circles without necessarily having the spending power to physically participate in (the activities of) those same circles.

Having lived in developing nations and in countries with struggling economies, I find the amount of free or cheap things to do increases greatly making it really hard to be left out (due to lack of money).

So basically the 'no network effect' may be financially-based or just based on preference.

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by bad_user on Sunday November 10, 2013 @01:50PM (#6707845)
While he's right, sort of, I think the value of cellular phones, smartphones and Facebook is overblown and I also think these can also have a negative effect on your social life. Make an experiment, disconnect your smartphone for one month.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by speeder on Sunday November 10, 2013 @05:18PM (#6708709)
How you do that when noone you know in person lives close to you? How you do that when you are just another urban lone wolf?
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by timmm on Sunday November 10, 2013 @02:04PM (#6707906)
> whether you want to be a part of society.

Opting out of facebook or cell phones does not mean you don't want to be part of society.

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by speeder on Sunday November 10, 2013 @05:20PM (#6708719)
It does, when everyone else won't communicate with you when you give up those things.

For example, once a technology named call card existed, you sent those to other people houses to.invite them over. If you for example to use that, most people.won't understand, and those that do, will think you are some sort of museum crazy person.

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by jesserosenthal on Sunday November 10, 2013 @02:03PM (#6707903)
The threads in response to you are fascinating and mystifying. I'm not sure whom to respond to, since everyone seems to be saying some variation of the same thing: that Facebook is simply a necessity of modern life. I think I'm a pretty normal, fairly technical, member of society, and I've never found that to be the case. I turned down the first stage of Facebook invites in 2006 or 2007 or whenever. Honestly, at the time, I probably thought I'd spend too much time obsessing about my ex. I work in a fairly computerized environment (a university) and I've never felt particularly hermetic. We have friends, live in a city, I have and make professional connections, etc.

I'm 37, so maybe I'm not representative, and I'm willing to believe that my life might be a little more wife-and-kids-and-job-centric than some here. But I'm honestly a bit surprised by the claims that it's impossible to live without it. I'm willing to believe it, because it seems unlikely that this many people would be so wildly exaggerating, but it's surprising all the same. What are the elements of life that I live without that folks can't even conceive of living without?

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by code_duck on Sunday November 10, 2013 @02:16PM (#6707973)
Your comments don't address the actual matter here: Facebook's filtering does a poor job of selecting what's what's interesting or notable to an individual.

Personally, I was just observing today to my girlfriend that it seems my news feed is rather sparse, mainly consisting of the same 15-20 people over and over again and few enough total posts per day that I often reach the end of posts I haven't seen. Then, when I look at the pages of actual friends I am surprised to see them posting significant things that somehow I was not presented with. I would prefer that the news feed work like twitter: show me everything, from everyone, sequentially. The choice between 'Top Stories' and 'Most Recent' isn't enough since lost recent, as noted, shows a small and poorly chosen subset of friend activity. And then, the mix is frequently updated behind the scenes in an opaque manner.

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by jonchang on Sunday November 10, 2013 @03:26PM (#6708273)
I agree. Facebook needs you to tell it which posts from friends you want to see. I've found the friend organizer really helps with that:

https://www.facebook.com/friends/organize

You're basically asked whether you want to move people into two lists: Close Friends and Acquaintances. You'll see pretty much every single action your close friends perform on Facebook, and you won't see anything from your acquaintances except the important updates (i.e., ones with lots of likes / shares / comments).

Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by Killswitch on Sunday November 10, 2013 @03:33PM (#6708305)
That's nice and all, but I am friends with everyone on my Facebook because whether we're best of friends and interact with each other every day, or once a year, I still want to keep up to date with them.
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by accelguy on Sunday November 10, 2013 @02:22PM (#6707998)
Its getting very annoying to see all these linkbait articles being posted to HN
Re:Dear Facebook: You Suck by Killswitch on Sunday November 10, 2013 @03:01PM (#6708159)
I don't think that word means what you think it means.

I did not "post a linkbait article", If I wanted to post a linkbait article I would have not put it on a free, ad-less site that has zero use for me outside of it's use for everyone else... I posted it in an ad-free pastebin because I don't want it to be linkbait.