When you buy a fund, you’re choosing its management strategy (including about votes). If you don’t feel a fund represents your interests well, don’t buy it.
Sometimes your employer gives you a list of a couple dozen funds run by the same manager, and if you want your employer to contribute to your retirement savings, those are the options.
I'm all for banning these super-voting companies from the 401K/index funds. But you should know that many poor and average people would've missed those superb returns.
I'm not against forbidding index/401K funds from investing in those companies since many people (including you) deem those companies as "bad".
Many average people don't actively manage their funds. They would've missed out on the benefits, but that's okay. Having shareholder voting power is more important for them, I suppose. While I disagree, I might have voted for it. Because this would've translated to less competition for house and stuff.