No. Never spent money on these sites. Some things just happen, quite randomly. No more details.

I wasn't judging, I wanted to understand how it happened, and the added context is appreciated.

I don't know of that was your case, but many times, its a series of small, seemingly justifiable yet ill-advised, boundary-pushing (yet thrilling!) decisions that lead to somewhere messy.

Sure. I understand. My comment was meant to indicate that I never thought I would get where I did. Clean until you are not. Yes. Small small things becoming an obsession.