How should I deal with an employee who has slept with my wife?

Re:How should I deal with an employee who has slept with my ... by MordinSolus on Wednesday January 09, 2013 @10:01PM (#5035110)

> As opposed to jetti, I'm not sure the wife would just have found somebody else.

Irrelevant.

Here's the problem:

"At the same time, every time I see his face, I feel like that just kills me inside."

It is silly to think that this doesn't affect productivity and won't affect the business in the future, especially with communication between these two individuals. A person's well being does is in fact a work matter, the acknowledgment of which makes the employees position absolutely untenable. You cannot possibly sleep with a fellow employee's spouse (regardless of whether it is a superior or not) and not expect that to be a work matter.

> It's as if they expect the boss to be able to tell employees who they can fuck.

This isn't about telling the employee who they can fuck. It's about fostering a productive and positive work environment. Knowingly choosing to create animosity between yourself and a superior (or any fellow employee for that matter) in such a hurtful manner is simply stupid.

This employee should be fired immediately.

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Re:How should I deal with an employee who has slept with my ... by Frozenlock on Wednesday January 09, 2013 @10:06PM (#5035125)

I'm not disagreeing with any of the possible impact on the boss's productivity, but rather how a majority of response here are of the kind: "Fire him, be the alpha male! Ouga ouga!" Firing him might be the correct answer; but it's in no way evident.

Try this thought experiment: suppose you have 2 employees. Would you fire one of them if he sleeps with the other's girlfriend, or would you consider this a 'personal matter' and not interfere?

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Re:How should I deal with an employee who has slept with my ... by MordinSolus on Wednesday January 09, 2013 @10:11PM (#5035143)

> Would you fire one of them if he sleeps with the other's girlfriend, or would you consider this a 'personal matter' and not interfere?

If I am a small business and only have ~50 employees, I would probably fire them. It's only a personal matter until it affects work. This would obviously affect work.

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Re:How should I deal with an employee who has slept with my ... by Frozenlock on Wednesday January 09, 2013 @10:18PM (#5035169)

You would fire BOTH of them?

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Re:How should I deal with an employee who has slept with my ... by clarky07 on Thursday January 10, 2013 @12:26AM (#5035619)

I would ask him to resign, and if he doesn't he'd be fired. Clearly it won't be good for my business to have these 2 working together. The fact that he's clearly showing bad judgement means it's an easy decision as to which one should go.

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Re:How should I deal with an employee who has slept with my ... by jetti on Wednesday January 09, 2013 @10:46PM (#5035255)

So here is a question that would be left to an employment lawyer but I'm going to through it out in response to what you have said: Assuming this is in the US, would the employee's actions fall under the familial status protected class? If so, it would be illegal to fire the employee.

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Re:How should I deal with an employee who has slept with my ... by clarky07 on Thursday January 10, 2013 @12:23AM (#5035615)

No. It falls under gross misconduct, and he should show him the door.

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