> most of human communication is walking on eggshells
That's not human communication, that's Anglosphere communication. Other cultures are much more direct and are finding it very hard to work with Anglos (we come across as rude, they come across as not saying things they should be saying).
What culture are those? Scandinavian? Those often just say nothing.
Scandinavian are quite different between each others as well.
I'm Greek. I don't know about other Mediterranean cultures, but I assume they're similar.
The Dutch especially. It's refreshing
After having worked with people from former Eastern Bloc countries, I would nominate a few of them for direct communication, e.g., "I won't do that because it is a stupid idea," or, "Can we discuss this when you know what you're doing?"
Scandinavian cultures are not uniform also. Danes can be very direct; Swedes - not so much.
Depends on the culture as you said, but some of them are even less direct than English speaking countries. Japan for example.
And India. It's a common experience that engineering teams from India will say yes to everything and then do what they think is best. Rather than saying no and explaining what they want to do instead
I am an American born to greek parents. For ‘normal’ conversation, I have adapted two ways of interacting - the greek one is direct and has instant access to emotional reactions. The American one obfuscates emotions, as if daily interactions were a game of poker. When i let my ‘greek’ out here in the US , it initially adds life to any interaction but over time the other participants distance themselves from connection. It is as if Greeks (many Europeans?) run at a higher temperature (also using temperature as it applies to LLMs). In greece, Intent and meaning are more often conveyed by emotion and its intensity, often only loosely connected to the meaning of the words used.in daily conversation , Americans rely entirely on meaning of content subtracting almost all emotion unless threatening behavior or violence is involved. Emotion expression is used as a ‘tell’ or bait in the US. Interestingly this distinction has dissolved over the past two decades as greece has ‘westernized’ and youth in particular are indistinguishable by any metric.
I thought that was odd, but later it made sense to me -- most of human communication is walking on eggshells around people's egos, and that's strongly encoded in the training data (and even more in the RLHF).