I personally think that the people who can’t be bothered to actually write authentic messages, and assume that everyone will just read their word salad full of repetitive AI patterns, are being the ones acting entitled.
These are a few of those precious organic, human perspectives. You demand it, then disrespect me when I provide it?
Your position is incoherent.
What does this mean?
> speak with your own voice
What does this mean??
> perfectly normal and in no way entitled
No, not at all! Code-switching is the norm.
True: Nobody is entitled to be treated nicely. Nobody is entitled to an open, friendly relationship. Nobody is entitled to get to know you. If we only did what we were entitled to do, and received what we were entitled to receive, the world would be an even shittier place than it already is. We have enough people walking around with the "You're not entitled to me being nice, so I'm not gonna be! nyaaaaa!" attitudes.
If your comment is at all indicative of how you are in real life, I really don't think you have to worry about people wanting to get to know you.
likewise for friends (not just your girlfriend), getting to know you is part of developing friendship.
so family, friends, work, business, that pretty much covers everyone you deal with on a regular basis.
i would go as far as saying that if you don't trust me then you have no business even communicating with me unless the interaction is incidental.
That's their freedom.
But why speak in such absolutes? Trust is always partial. And, likewise, there's always something one must divulge in order to relate.
But the author's imploring, imperative mood creeps me the fuck out.
That's exactly what I'm saying!
And by what means am I permitted, your majesty, to construct this face? May I read books to paraphrase? May I quote authors? May I practice at Toastmasters™? Maybe practice with my paychotherapist, or with my speech therapist?
You don't know, and you don't get to know. My interiority is my own.
There is no "the real me."
Ugh, you are not entitled to get to know me. There is a threshold between all that I share with the world and the rest of me. Hell, not every person gets the same picture, and that's deliberate and healthy--my customers don't get to know what my proctologist knows. My mother doesn't get to know what my wife knows.
You don't get to know all of me, because I don't trust you.
This post comes across as sweet, and innocent. It also comes across as absurdly self-entitled, and it's not an OK posture to take towards the world. It's not OK when the police take this posture, it's not OK when private companies take this posture, and it's not OK when strangers on the internet take this posture.
You are entitled to withdraw from relationships that don't fulfill your emotional needs. A reasonable audience for this missive is your girlfriend, your child (who relies on you), or your employer (to whom you are vulnerable).