News for hackers. Stuff that matters.
Re:How to talk to anyone – and why you should (The Guardian) by parineum on Sunday March 01, 2026 @04:33PM (#47210905)
> She couldn’t understand when I said that would take all the pleasure out of it, because talking to people would become transactional rather than joyous.

It doesn't have to and I suspect that's why your colleague suggested it. Politicians act that way because that's what people want except they don't want someone who is acting.

You have what politicians pretend to have because it makes people like them.

You might be a terrible politician for other reasons but I don't think what you've said is true.

Re:How to talk to anyone – and why you should (The Guardian) by crazygringo on Sunday March 01, 2026 @07:06PM (#47212233)
There are plenty of politicians who get into politics precisely because they love interacting with everyone.

It doesn't take the pleasure out of it, it doesn't make it transactional. It just gives them incredible job fulfillment, at least in that part of it.

Bill Clinton was famous for this. It was incredibly frustrating to his staff because he was constantly late for his next event, because he always wanted to keep talking to the people he'd just met. They'd have to build in buffer time to plan around it, because otherwise it wound up disrupting his schedule and logistics too much.

Re:How to talk to anyone – and why you should (The Guardian) by haritha-j on Monday March 02, 2026 @04:45AM (#47215754)
Yeah, especially with the interns.
Re:How to talk to anyone – and why you should (The Guardian) by hluska on Sunday March 01, 2026 @04:45PM (#47211006)
Hey bud, with all due respect, you’re arguing against who someone believes they are.
Re:How to talk to anyone – and why you should (The Guardian) by saaaaaam on Sunday March 01, 2026 @05:16PM (#47211262)
Hold on… what do I believe I am?!
Re:How to talk to anyone – and why you should (The Guardian) by galangalalgol on Sunday March 01, 2026 @06:25PM (#47211919)
I would have rather said he was arguing with who you about who you each think you can be. That is different. The question is whether or not you think you can remain a genuine and caring person while being a politician.
Re:How to talk to anyone – and why you should (The Guardian) by svat on Sunday March 01, 2026 @09:14PM (#47213053)
Maybe you did this too: I misread the comment you're replying to as

> …you’re arguing against someone who believes they are.

when actually it says

> …you’re arguing against who someone believes they are.

(meaning “you're arguing with someone against who they believe themselves to be” or something like that.)

Re:How to talk to anyone – and why you should (The Guardian) by saaaaaam on Monday March 02, 2026 @04:40AM (#47215704)
Oh, you’re right - I did. I was very confused! Thanks for pointing this out.
Re:How to talk to anyone – and why you should (The Guardian) by hiAndrewQuinn on Monday March 02, 2026 @10:26AM (#47219164)
I'm surprised by all the people saying they dislike transactional talk. Voluntary trades are positive sum by definition, so a good transactional conversation should also be a joyous one.