If they aren't compatible, then you can't use them together, so you have to find something else, or build the functionality yourself.
If you don’t own it and cannot legally relicense part as LGPL, you’re not allowed to publish it.
Just because you can merge someone else’s code does not mean you’re legally allowed to do so.
> This may or may not be possible
I am not sure what you are saying, that is different from the comment you replied to.
Fair use doesn't get thrown out the window because GPL authors have a certain worldview.
Second, there are a lot of non-copyrightable components to source code - if you can't copyright it - you certainly can't GPL it. These can be copied freely by anyone at any time.
In the specific ffmpeg case, you are allowed to dynamically link against it from a project with an incompatible license.
Copyleft licenses are designed to prevent you mixing code as the licenses are generally incompatible with mixing.
More permissive license will generally allow you to mix licenses. This is why you can ship permissive code in a proprietary code base.
As for linking, “weak copyleft” license allow you to link but not to “mix” code. This is essentially the point of the LGPL.