If you don't design your career, someone else will (2014)

Re:If you don't design your career, someone else will (2014) by g947o on Monday December 22, 2025 @07:10AM (#46353531)

I planned to get out of my current company and stop wasting my life two years ago.

The job market and my visa status meant that it's either impossible or I need to make significant sacrifices.

So that's life.

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Re:If you don't design your career, someone else will (2014) by ramon156 on Monday December 22, 2025 @07:25AM (#46353617)

Wondering if working as a contractor is any different. you won't stay longer than 6-12 months on a project and you can safely say goodbye without having to explain a gap in your resume

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Re:If you don't design your career, someone else will (2014) by g947o on Monday December 22, 2025 @10:02AM (#46354644)

Visa.

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Re:If you don't design your career, someone else will (2014) by paulcole on Monday December 22, 2025 @08:01AM (#46353813)

Why didn’t you make the significant sacrifices?

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Re:If you don't design your career, someone else will (2014) by jcims on Monday December 22, 2025 @08:10AM (#46353854)

This is one of those areas where family starts to influence decisions. My wife and I had kids between 24 and 28. From that point forward, 'supporting the family' took priority over personal fulfillment.

Now that our kids are grown and self-supporting, it's wild how much simpler the risk calculation is. But at 52 with engineering manager being the dominant role in my CV, not particularly appealing to the small companies making big moves that I'm interested in.

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Re:If you don't design your career, someone else will (2014) by paulcole on Monday December 22, 2025 @05:02PM (#46359680)

Nobody with a family has ever found a way to make a sacrifice and leave a job they felt was wasting their life?

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Re:If you don't design your career, someone else will (2014) by g947o on Tuesday December 23, 2025 @07:16AM (#46364694)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_dilemma

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Re:If you don't design your career, someone else will (2014) by paulcole on Tuesday December 23, 2025 @11:42AM (#46366757)

Well-said

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Re:If you don't design your career, someone else will (2014) by jcims on Tuesday December 23, 2025 @12:58PM (#46367461)

What use is extrapolating what I said to its extreme end? In 1999 I quit my full time secure job to start a company. My wife was a stay at home mom, we had a new baby and a new mortgage for a house that was still being built. Yes it's possible, but counterexamples don't mean it's not a factor.

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Re:If you don't design your career, someone else will (2014) by paulcole on Tuesday December 23, 2025 @11:16PM (#46372392)

Your example is as much a counter example as mine is…

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