Find an app or website that is easy for you to use and try logging all your food (include snacks and things that you may consider to be "little"). Figure out based on your weight and activity level (be conservative) what you need to eat to lose 1-2 pounds a week and hit the goals If you do this honestly for an extended period of time, you will lose weight.
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The only people who are "meant to be big" are those with hormonal imbalances. And even then, modern medicine can address most of their problems.
>>Sometimes you just can't fight your body and you're meant to be who you are.
It's true that you can't fight your body if you eat more calories than you consume. I noticed that the only part of your diet you listed was the type of food you eat. What about amount? Do you weigh your food, or have some other type of calorie estimation method? If not, you'll eat like a pig (especially at your activity level) and never realize it.
Apparently you don't watch rugby.
And on a side note - speaking as a fellow martial artist with flexibility problems, I'm envious of your flexibility!
If you switched to just vegies and meat I guarantee you would lose weight.
http://blogs.scientificamerican.com/guest-blog/2012/08/27/th...
My diet? Eggs, veggies, rice, fruits. No sugar at all, and yet I have not been able to lose weight for the past 2 - 3 years. I have slowly watched the scale climb up no matter how many calories I cut or how many carbs I don't eat. Sometimes you just can't fight your body and you're meant to be who you are.