There are many high quality third party tools to help with this, such as Motion’s <AnimatePresence> (https://motion.dev/docs/react-animate-presence). I haven’t used the library you mentioned, but it seems somewhat unmaintained and isn’t compatible with react-dom@19.
First party support is coming to React with the new <ViewTransition> component (https://react.dev/reference/react/ViewTransition).
If you insist that only the React maintainers are allowed to diverge DOM state from the render tree or write code you don’t understand, you can adopt it today from react{,-dom}@experimental. It’s been available there since April (https://react.dev/blog/2025/04/23/react-labs-view-transition...).
https://stackblitz.com/edit/react-modal-with-transition-out?...
And the “react way” is to have the UI reflect state. If the state says the modal is not being rendered, it should not be rendered