Re:Jemalloc Postmortem
by lukeasrodgers on Friday June 13, 2025 @07:34AM
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If my kid is sad that she cannot have an extra granola bar, that does not imply that I am wrong to deny her, or even that she thinks I am wrong, it just means she wishes she could have one.
Sure, but this whole forum is more like your kid going on Twitter and yapping "I can't have an extra granola bar? That's SO SAD! Unfair!" I'm just saying that it's not only about feeling an emotion, there's lots of extra implications to it and most of them are not very good.
You don't really get to decide whether someone's entirely in-passing mention of an emotional response to developments in something they worked on is 'reasonable' or not, and more importantly, it's not at all a topic of interesting conversation, just pedantic nitpicking.
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Project participants showing up to HN to discuss their work is one of the more interesting and valuable things we have here and a 'community norm' in which they start getting hectored over tiny details or pet issues unrelated to the work would not be a good one - it just drives people away.
It's hardly a reasonable response. By casually saying that it's "sad" when a maintainer gives up on a project, GP is also including a very real and heavy implication that this is somehow wrong on their part and that they should continue to shoulder that burden, as a demand from the community. This is a really unhealthy attitude and we should all do away with it. Instead, just acknowledge that the project is now there for the taking by anyone who may be interested. There's nothing "sad!" about this whatsoever, and we should not pretend that there is.