Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon...
by thfuran on Friday May 30, 2025 @08:18AM
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You're more open and honest with any man than with your wife?
Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon...
by happymellon on Friday May 30, 2025 @10:22AM
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I am very different around my wife than random women.
We aren't talking about spouses.
Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon...
by subscribed on Friday May 30, 2025 @04:14PM
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I'm more open with many men than my wife, who famously laughed reminiscing on one of her exes who opened up to her and cried.
I've yet to see the clam closing up than I did on the day. Sadly it happened way too late for some things.
So yeah, don't be vulnerable around women. That's the warning my wife gave me.
Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon...
by jajko on Friday May 30, 2025 @04:58PM
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In some topics yes (not just any man, male close friends), but not in some others.
All in all, I am most open to her from whole mankind, but thats also due to the fact she is not same as typical women are in these aspects. It took me some time (and painful breakups with other women) to realize who I am, what and whom I want next to me and then find her.
Still, some topics are simply not built for women, and thats fine, some are not built for men.
Is it really so hard to understand this?
Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon...
by leoedin on Friday May 30, 2025 @08:53AM
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In my experience (as a man) men tend to behave quite differently when there’s no women present too.
Generally I much prefer mixed gender socialising!
Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon...
by nothercastle on Friday May 30, 2025 @09:08AM
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All sorts of weird hazing and one up manship happened when I was a young man in these groups. That’s how you get these crazy Dubai guy videos of people skiing in sandals on a highway or driving on 2 tires.
And if that man is charismatic or handsome its completely different dynamics and resulting behavior again.
Never thought about it myself but one female friend mentioned this once (how toxic their work environment becomes when there is no man), so started noticing it around.
As a married man I can understand these clubs fully. A man is never so relaxed, open and honest as when with other men, only men. I would expect the same among women, while accepting they always play their little games also just among themselves (which are very tiring for most men in long run and thus those clubs' popularity)