Agreed, and the point I'm overall driving at is is that perceived need, desire, whatever you'd call it is a core structural reason for the male loneliness epidemic.

Like I've had so many discussions (in mixed company and male!) and like, I've talked about wanting to bang women, I've flirted with female friends to their faces in groups, the key is I'm not a fucking creep about it so either they express interest or they express disinterest and I don't take the latter as a personal affront, I'm just like, yeah that's cool, no worries, anyway... and we carry on. I've compared notes on what I like in women with lesbians. I've gotten tips on sex from women for the women I do date. I've joked and laughed with other women about how bad some guys are at sex. These conversations exist, you just need to not be a fucking weirdo and not be strutting around trying to bang everything in sight, and when rejected, completely lose interest and bail if you want to have them.