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Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by jim-jim-jim on Friday May 30, 2025 @03:27AM (#44133831)
I'm under the impression that women's only spaces are very much frowned upon in the English speaking world, whether it be in sports, book awards, knitting circles, toilets, or prisons.

This isn't an x-has-it-worse comment by the way. I think every demographic is entitled to self-segregate without shame, and the ladies definitely face their own struggles in achieving this.

Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by dwighttk on Friday May 30, 2025 @05:52AM (#44134545)
Your impression is mistaken.

E.g.

Girl Scouts: allowed to be girls only

Boy Scouts: now “Scouting” because girls are allowed

My intramural sports in college had coed and women only teams

Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by craftkiller on Friday May 30, 2025 @08:10AM (#44135385)
Those two scouts programs aren't even remotely comparable, both in substance and prestige. Many girl scout troops barely did any camping/outdoor activity, whereas boys got to earn the prestige of "eagle scout" and go on various outdoor adventures (multi-day treks through the mountains, building igloos and camping inside them, camping on an island only accessible by a canoe, etc). It was a tragedy that girls didn't have the opportunities available to boys.

(Source: My sister and her friends were the type that would have thrived in boy scouts, but they had to join a "venture crew" run by the same scout leader as our boy scout troop)

Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by lupusreal on Friday May 30, 2025 @09:41AM (#44136144)
Whether a boyscout group sits around and does lame crafts or goes into the woods to start fires and hit each other with sticks is entirely down to the leadership (boys and adults) in that troop. So to is it with girlscouts. There is nothing intrinsic about boyscouts that makes it more exciting, except that it was lead by guys.
Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by 1659447091 on Friday May 30, 2025 @05:10PM (#44139925)
> There is nothing intrinsic about boyscouts that makes it more exciting

The chance to obtain Eagle Scout status is itself more exciting. It difficult to deny that it is one of the best leadership programs for children available. The girl scout equivalent is not even close to producing the leaders the Eagle Scouts do. They also have their own network for eagle scouts to connect. It can be an opportunity to get into a Good ‘ol Boys club (future business & money connections) before moving out of their parent’s house.

If a male or female wants to learn more about extracting money from family/shoppers by selling cases of cookies, or learn about female social empowerment and financial skill, instead of learning leadership through self reliance/accountability skills mixed with teamwork, then why not let them choose the programs they want? -- but they are different. Their Gold Award is nothing like earning Eagle Scout status.

Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by lupusreal on Friday May 30, 2025 @06:35PM (#44140435)
The credentials and awards is definitely the least important aspect of boyscouts. As for leadership learning opportunities, there is no reason the girl scouts couldn't have this too.
Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by steveBK123 on Friday May 30, 2025 @10:00AM (#44136314)
Flip your own framing around - aren't there likely boys who would have preferred the Girl Scouts coded activities, and being disallowed from membership is therefore also an unfair dis-opportunity?
Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by fennecfoxy on Friday May 30, 2025 @12:12PM (#44137646)
Yup exactly. Same as all the "feminist" groups campaigning to disallow trans women from such groups, usually using the excuse that they'll get assaulted by the "really just men" trans women a la "won't somebody please think of the children!" when the incidences of this happening is almost 0 comparatively.

Turns out some are allowed to have special clubs, but others not so much. And we only have societal perception of women to blame; the thing they're relying on for all this "they need their own space to protect them" is demeaning, imo. Besides the fact that the majority of victims of crime are male (and before someone points out that the majority of criminals are also male - did you know that's a sexist statement to make? It's judging an entire sex by the actions of individuals).

Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by compass_copium on Friday May 30, 2025 @06:05AM (#44134606)
BSA made the decision to allow girls on their own and it's been fantastic for the program.
Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by bluefirebrand on Friday May 30, 2025 @07:35AM (#44135147)
You actually think this organization made this decision on their own with no outside pressure, or internal pressure from women?

I have a bridge to sell you

Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by dralley on Friday May 30, 2025 @08:30AM (#44135533)
The "external pressure" was largely just the pressure of declining membership.
Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by bluefirebrand on Friday May 30, 2025 @08:57AM (#44135757)
What pressure led to declining membership?

Did it have anything to do with "Boy Scouts is a sexist organization" narratives?

Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by mrguyorama on Friday May 30, 2025 @01:30PM (#44138315)
Uh, no, I'm sorry you had to find out this way, but the primary reason was because the boy scouts have rampant sex abuse scandals like the catholic priesthood.

Also Tiktok means fewer young boys so bored that they set things on fire.

Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by bluefirebrand on Friday May 30, 2025 @08:24PM (#44140961)
Ah yes

Opening up the organization to young girls as well seems like exactly the right fix for

Rampant sex abuse scandals

That's how I would fix that problem too

Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by nothercastle on Friday May 30, 2025 @09:05AM (#44135840)
Nah these decisions actually resulted in membership declines because they lost the Mormon population and with them a huge chunk of the patrons
Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by dralley on Friday May 30, 2025 @10:45AM (#44136732)
I'm pretty sure you have the order reversed. They were already losing the mormons.
Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by steveBK123 on Friday May 30, 2025 @10:01AM (#44136326)
I mean if we are talking about BSA declining membership, one pretty large reason could be...

https://www.reuters.com/legal/us-supreme-court-lets-246-bill...

Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by blitzar on Friday May 30, 2025 @06:59AM (#44134879)
> I'm under the impression that women's only spaces are very much frowned upon

Centre of the English speaking world here.

My gym has a "mixed" workout area and a "women only" workout area. The pool and sauna have "mixed" sessions and "women only" sessions. Classes are segregated to "women only" or "mixed". Membership fees are the same for all.

Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by timthorn on Friday May 30, 2025 @07:20AM (#44135040)
The Women's Institute is going strong in the UK. There are far more girls' schools than boys' schools. I don't think female only spaces are frowned on at all, at least here.
Re:Show HN: I'm starting a social club to solve the male lon... by boppo1 on Sunday June 01, 2025 @01:38AM (#44148873)
>I'm under the impression that women's only spaces are very much frowned upon in the English speaking world

That is the impression you would get from online journalism. The reality is basically the opposite. Women's only spaces are celebrated and the narrative is that they're brave and strong and defiant and resisting sexist oppression. 80-90% of men are totally ambivalent about it.