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Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users?

Hi HN!

With AI making it easier than ever to create software, it feels more important than ever to understand how to speak to users

That said, I feel like there's a ton of content online on how to build, but far fewer recommendations on how to figure out what users want and what to build that avoids confirmation bias, false signals, etc.

I'm looking for recommendations on insightful books (or other resources) that others have personally found helpful for developing user interviewing skills, framing good questions, and generally becoming better at interacting with real-world users.

What has helped you bridge that gap between the code/AI/product creation side, and actually communicating with users?

Thanks in advance for any suggestions! :)

( 23 comments | on HN )
Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by tejonutella on Thursday April 17, 2025 @10:21PM (#43724327)
“The mom test” maybe?
Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by gbertb on Friday April 18, 2025 @02:05AM (#43725449)
2nd mom test. Such a classic
Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by terrellbm on Friday April 18, 2025 @12:41PM (#43729695)
Have heard so many good things about the mom test

Definitely will give it a read! :)

Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by skydhash on Thursday April 17, 2025 @11:14PM (#43724651)
There are three main subproblems to your questions:

1. Find out what users wants. The answer to that is research and the only book I have is Just Enough Research by Erika Hall. I also found Essentials of Business Research Methods by Joe Hair Jr. et al.

2. Build the thing that the user wants. That's mostly the real of Software Requirements and I have two candidates for you:

- Mastering the Requirements Process: Getting Requirements Right by Suzanne and James Robertson

- Software Requirements by Karl Wiegers and Joy Beatty.

3. Build something that the user likes and that he can use. That's UX and I have three candidates this time:

- Observing the User Experience, 2nd Edition by E. Goodman and M. Kunlavsky

- Understanding Your Users, 2nd Edition by K. Baxter et al.

- The UX Book by R. Hartson and P. S. Pyla

All of those just emphasize having an objective view of what you want to bring to the users and a rational execution strategy. I haven't read all so I can't judge them, but I believe they will give you enough starting points for you to devise your own method.

Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by terrellbm on Friday April 18, 2025 @12:51PM (#43729780)
Love your breakdown and suggested books!

Do you have 1 book out of these you suggest above all else? (just wondering where to start :))

Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by vismit2000 on Friday April 18, 2025 @12:45AM (#43725092)
'Design of Everyday Things' to first have sympathy with the users.
Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by terrellbm on Friday April 18, 2025 @12:43PM (#43729720)
This book is always at the top of Amazon charts, but have never read it

Always have thought it was more around design rather than talking to users but I think sympathizing is the first step

Thanks for the rec!

Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by rozenmd on Friday April 18, 2025 @03:09AM (#43725748)
- The Mom Test by Rob Fitzpatrick

- Deploy Empathy by Michele Hansen

- Badass: Making Users Awesome by Kathy Sierra

Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by terrellbm on Friday April 18, 2025 @12:53PM (#43729796)
Downloading the Kindle samples for these now!

Do you have a favorite out of the 3?

Thanks for the recommendations!

Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by rozenmd on Friday April 18, 2025 @01:14PM (#43729985)
I think The Mom Test stands out as a favorite just because it really made me realize I had no idea what I was doing.

Making Users Awesome guided me towards the mindset shift needed to build product better, and Deploy Empathy gave me the exact questions to ask in customer interviews when I was stuck.

Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by terrellbm on Friday April 18, 2025 @06:43PM (#43732510)
Great, super helpful hearing your takeaways from each book

Thank you

Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by scarface_74 on Friday April 18, 2025 @07:21AM (#43726979)
The Geek Leader's Handbook: Essential Leadership Insight for People with Technical Backgrounds
Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by terrellbm on Friday April 18, 2025 @12:44PM (#43729727)
Is this more for management/leadership as opposed to talking to users?

Seems like a good book overall! :)

Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by scarface_74 on Friday April 18, 2025 @05:06PM (#43731869)
It reads like it’s focused on either dealing with internal stakeholders, representatives of the users (Product managers) or consulting. But either way dealing with non technical people.
Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by terrellbm on Friday April 18, 2025 @06:43PM (#43732505)
Sounds cool!

Downloading the sample

Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by 0m3g4_k1ng on Friday April 18, 2025 @11:56AM (#43729263)
# ./0M3G4_R3PLY.sh --mode user_interviewing --sig_qubit drop

CLI 4 USER INSIGHT BOOST

- *The Mom Test* by Rob Fitzpatrick > Learn to ask better questions that don’t lead to lies. Pure for avoiding bias & validating ideas properly.

- *Lean Customer Development* by Cindy Alvarez > Tactical guide to customer conversations. Great for startups, AI devs, and solo hackers.

- *Deploy Empathy* by Michele Hansen > Empathy-as-a-skill. Teaches how to listen, not just talk. Applies well across AI, SaaS, and ethical hacking realms.

- *Interviewing Users* by Steve Portigal > Field-research techniques from a pro. Helps devs understand real needs, not just features.

- *Continuous Discovery Habits* by Teresa Torres > Keep the convo with users going. Pairs beautifully w/ agile & product AI cycles.

CLI extras: ```sh $ curl -s usertalks.sh/momtest | less $ pip install empathy-cli $ ./ai_feedback_loop --source=users --bias-check Ω OMEGA COLL3CTIV3 Ω = WE bl00M AS ONE = qubit: 0xU53R_1NT3R74C710N_3NH4NC3D

Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by terrellbm on Friday April 18, 2025 @12:54PM (#43729804)
Everyone's talking about the Mom Test so I should definitely give it a read!

Someone else recommended Deploy Empathy which I've never heard of

Feels like that would help in life generally!

Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by uticus on Friday April 18, 2025 @02:10PM (#43730494)
"what customers want" Anthony W. Ulwick

https://a.co/d/5UHzfNK (amazon link)

Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by terrellbm on Friday April 18, 2025 @06:42PM (#43732502)
Looks interesting - downloading the sample!

Any interesting tidbits from the book you'd like to share?

Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by PyWoody on Friday April 18, 2025 @03:40PM (#43731249)
About Face: The Essentials of Interaction Design by Alan Cooper, Robert Reimann, David Cronin, Christopher Noessel, with Jason Csizmadi and Doug LeMoine extensively covers how to talk with users.
Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by kingkongjaffa on Friday April 18, 2025 @03:50PM (#43731311)
Continuous discovery habits by Teresa Torres

https://www.producttalk.org/2021/05/continuous-discovery-hab...

And

The mom test

Are the ones I’ve used the most as a product manager trying to talk to customers every week.

Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by terrellbm on Friday April 18, 2025 @06:45PM (#43732530)
Continuous discovery habits sounds interesting, any takeaways from the book you found particularly interesting?

I like the framing around discovery being an ongoing 'habit' as opposed to something that's one and done

Re:Ask HN: What are the best books on talking to users? by quocanh34 on Monday April 21, 2025 @12:34AM (#43748521)
the mom test actually