the way this is stated is troubling in that it proposes an aysimetric idea of "close friend" which is just one more version of hiarchical structure in human society, rather than something based on seeing things from the same perspective and the trust and understanding that comes.....after that discovery ie: "intentionlly making", vs finding I would suggest that the quality of the people that inhabit the mutual appreciation societys that pass as friendships amongst the "popular" extroverts is the impetus behind this sort of blind quest, the unrecorded and hard to imagine blank realisation of the inevitable "stalemates" in there social jockeing, no one there, vulnerable, to anything at all....how dry and tedious, that must be