> I mean it's empty because you deny people that love you to do nice things for you
Uf, that sounds horribel. Reminds me of the mother in C.S. Lewsis Screwtape Letters
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Screwtape_Letters
I at some point it becomes performative and false. And not very Christian at all
At least, that is how I experienced it.