I tend to find it's causing things even if I'm trying to avoid essentializing it, and this also goes for side effects of medications for it.

eg relationship advice says you shouldn't "change your personality" for your partner, but in my last relationship both of ours changed quite a lot when our medication changed or even if we hadn't taken it that day, so I don't really feel attached to it.

It's not an essential part of my identity. There are symptoms that I sometimes and sometimes do not display that can be managed with medication and behavioral changes.

Part of the problem is the identifying with a spectrum of symptoms we assume to be eternal and unchanging.