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Re:Why young parents should focus on building trust with the... by the__alchemist on Thursday February 13, 2025 @09:59AM (#43036510)
Culture comparisons are a notoriously touchy topic. For some people, the topic itself is a taboo. I believe that's why the poster you're replying to had that reaction. For others, it's a topic to discuss and learn from.
Re:Why young parents should focus on building trust with the... by bluefirebrand on Thursday February 13, 2025 @10:57AM (#43037198)
It is important that we stop taking people who treat this topic as a taboo seriously at all

This modern mentality of "all cultures are equal and valid and none are superior to any other" is just ridiculous

Culture is something we are always looking to improve on. In this way, we are comparing our existing culture against hypothetical future cultures and deciding that one of them is more desirable

If we can compare a real culture with a hypothetical culture, then we can certainly compare two real cultures using similar criteria

Re:Why young parents should focus on building trust with the... by guhidalg on Thursday February 13, 2025 @12:34PM (#43038724)
Yes but these comparisons of real cultures become very gross very fast.

Japanese culture is orderly, neat, autonomous and their children are taught to wait at an early age. That's awesome! We should emulate Japan, clearly their culture is superior. Nevermind the salary-man trope, misogyny, Hikikomori, and rigidity that comes with it.

Instead of thinking about cultures in terms of ranking, try to understand the history of why a culture is a certain way and appreciate why other cultures are not like that.

Re:Why young parents should focus on building trust with the... by rayiner on Thursday February 13, 2025 @01:22PM (#43039334)
We don’t need to “rank” cultures to recognize that individual aspects of culture are better adapted to current environments.

My dad always says that “Bangladeshis don’t know how to name kids.” We don’t have surnames, but instead two given names. And everyone uses a nickname anyway that’s unrelated to the legal names. That is just inefficient and unwieldy in a modern world where social circles are larger than a village. So I have my dad’s last name and so do my kids. None of us like the name and it has no historical value but it makes things more efficient going forward.

Re:Why young parents should focus on building trust with the... by dctoedt on Thursday February 13, 2025 @05:44PM (#43042429)
> We don’t have surnames, but instead two given names. ... So I have my dad’s last name ....

Did your dad choose your last name? (Which, I've read, has a specific meaning in Hebrew, but I'm guessing your family isn't Jewish.)

Re:Why young parents should focus on building trust with the... by rayiner on Thursday February 13, 2025 @07:08PM (#43043091)
My parents adopted the western practice and gave us his last name, which he doesn’t share with anyone else in his family. It’s Arabic not Hebrew, but I imagine the words are related.

My wife’s last name is in the Domesday book, and they have extensive record of their family’s activities in the U.S.—which is a cool thing you can do when you have surnames! I feel somewhat guilty that the west coast line of the name will die out in favor of a name that has no family significance to anyone, but oh well.

Re:Why young parents should focus on building trust with the... by tptacek on Friday February 14, 2025 @12:07AM (#43045043)
I don't think they're related, but the name is a very big deal in Islam, albeit with a different (and very interesting) etymology.
Re:Why young parents should focus on building trust with the... by rayiner on Friday February 14, 2025 @05:02PM (#43053593)
It’s almost means the English phrase it superficially sounds like lol.
Re:Why young parents should focus on building trust with the... by the__alchemist on Thursday February 13, 2025 @12:46PM (#43038871)
I think this is a good example demonstrating why it becomes taboo: If you reduce cultural differences into a "good/bad" or similar simplification, then the comparison loses value, and triggers defensive responses.
Re:Why young parents should focus on building trust with the... by bluefirebrand on Thursday February 13, 2025 @02:58PM (#43040538)
Sure, not everything is clear cut good/bad, but some things are

The cultural relativism mentality that suggests we cannot judge other people's actions negatively "because that's their culture" is bullshit

Re:Why young parents should focus on building trust with the... by johnisgood on Thursday February 13, 2025 @03:22PM (#43040801)
Yeah, we can definitely judge anyone's behavior, we just should not do it blindly and we can despite or love someone for their actions, too, like why not? I despise cheaters, but I do not care, it is their life.
Re:Why young parents should focus on building trust with the... by uoaei on Thursday February 13, 2025 @02:46PM (#43040407)
I'm probably further left than most people you've met, and even I've come around to the idea that cosmopolitanism isn't the zenith of culture, but the negation of it.
Re:Why young parents should focus on building trust with the... by pmarreck on Thursday February 13, 2025 @05:25PM (#43042227)
If all cultures are forcibly considered equal, one corollary to that is that a culture itself can also never improve, or fail, because then a comparison to itself from a different age would also be forcibly considered to be equal.

In that spirit, I welcome your dissertation on how the Germany of 2024 is equal to the Germany of 1944.