Depends what quality of life means to you right? My parents were average income but I never had money stress; worst that happens is the state pays for them or me etc. I have many millions now because selling some businesses; my life is the same; high quality. So what do you mean? I can only read 'more cars' or something in your post.

> Depends what quality of life means to you right?

I recently got laid off for the 2nd time in 4 years (probably better off than most, to be honest). I'm done with shooting for the moon. I am now strongly considering a "boring" job - the kind that keeps the basics of society running and has government contracts. I can bootstrap my own moonshots over the weekend (I'm probably going to make split keyboards with Rust firmware FWIW).

So, yeah totally, it can even change for an individual pretty drastically.

your last comment made me chuckle because I actually hate driving. :-) I agree with you, quality of life is very personal!

I’ll share what a quality life means to me. For context, I grew up middle class, my father was a city employee, and my mother was a stay at home mom for a number of years.

• large emergency fund (zero stress about paying mortgage or losing job).

• I don’t have to look at prices when buying groceries or eating out.

• Time and money for 1-2 vacations per year. At least 1 international. My spouse and I love to visit new places.

• I can work remotely outside the US for 4 weeks internationally per year. I typically stay with my dad’s side of the family (in europe) for 3 weeks each year, while working remotely. Great way to spend lots of family time and not burn vacation time.

• No stress about medical care or costs.

• Ability to start a family without money stress.

• Good work life balance, no more than 40yrs on average. Minimum 3 weeks vacation per year.

• Ability to retire earlier, to pursue hobbies, if i wish.

• Easy access (45 min or less) to quality outdoor recreation on the weekends. Things like hiking, kayaking, etc.

A lot of those are luxuries, but certainly feel like a quality life for me. Yes, I realize how lucky I am. MOST people in the US are not so fortunate. I’m just explaining what quality of life might mean to someone… It’s not about buying pointless junk for me.

Your quality points are similar to mine, but then I don't get the US part? Many of these are basically guaranteed here. And the others are similar; for me it was never hard (because I am programmer since I was a kid) to make stupid money, but stupid money doesn't mean billions. The only reason I can see the US for is to make billions instead of millions. But the point is; if either of that fails, at least I always knew I am never living in a trailer park or on in my car or under a bridge here. Whatever risk (well outside dope) I take, it won't be that bad.

I cannot see how the US helps here positively unless you are don't mess up; I have got all you listen with very little effort and no risk (if it failed, I would live very much exactly the same) except maybe the family starting part as I never wanted kids. But the rest I have. I don't have a mortgage to care for either; I don't care for goods (like you), so I have a simple abode with a lot of (hiking and kayaking) land, which happens to cost next to nothing here.

>>>>large emergency fund (zero stress about paying mortgage or losing job).

I don't know about the EU, but in the UK I know their mortgages are usually fixed for only like 5 years. In the US they are typically 30 year fixed. That can cause a lot of instability when interest rates go up.

Your quality of life points boil down to being rich. If you’re saying that you’re more likely to end up rich in the US then sure, but most people don’t end up rich.

I’m not reading anything online, I literally lived in Canada for 12 years and saw first hand how awful the US is.

You would have to pay me a lot to live there, which explains the astronomical wages for tech workers.

And I disagree about your efforts paying off more in the US. In a couple areas like tech sure, but most people would be better off somewhere else.

That doesn't explain the astronomical wages for tech workers at all. Tech workers are paid highly because their employers are generating huge revenues per employee and the cost of living in these coastal hubs is exceptional [even before the most recent tech boom]. Tech workers not in Seattle, Bay Area, LA/Irvine, Boston, NYC and DC/NoVA are not getting paid nearly the same as tech workers in those places. Even in Chicago, Miami, Houston, Austin, Denver, Boulder, Raleigh, Charlotte, Philly -- they're all 20% or more lower comp. And what I'm not sure most folks on the outside looking in realize is just how much better tech companies pay for tech roles than non-tech companies pay for the same roles (usually in "IT" organizations). A SWE with 5yr experience at Google might be making $325k/yr total comp, but a SWE with 5yr experience at a F500 manufacturing company might be making $100k (and possibly working on harder problems).

The Google engineer is probably working directly on a product (or at least in a job function that is paid as if their members are working on the high-margin part of the business). The F500 manufacturing SWE is treated as part of the costs (and probably as NRE or overhead rather than as part of the product or even part of COGS).

>Tech workers are paid highly because their employers are generating huge revenues per employee and the cost of living in these coastal hubs is exceptional

These are factors common to all (e.g.) Google employees. But the folks cleaning the toilets aren't getting paid as much as the software engineers. So there must be a bit more to it than that. I'm not saying that the factors you listed aren't factors, but they aren't the whole story by any means.

If salaries weren’t so high nobody would choose to work for Google in the US vs in other places.

it’s funny because most of the US has the perception that canada is a mess and a horrible place to live too. Awful job prospects, migrant problems, horrible weather, and a housing market that makes the US look cheap. Just to name a few.

Not sure if that’s true at all, i’ve never been to canada! So take those opinions with a huge grain of salt lol.

What’s my point? I guess that perceptions can be very different.

Anyway since you left canada, I hope you found someplace where you are happier. :-)

they're all true, and all (mostly) exaggerated, on both sides of the border

The difference is that I’ve never met a Canadian who hasn’t been to the US at least once. The same can’t be said for US citizens, as evidenced by you.

I lived in Connecticut for 6 months too for what it’s worth. Awful place.

Canada is much better, but has its problem. These days I live in Tokyo and love it.

Over half of Canadians live within 70 miles of the US border and up to 90% (methodologies vary) live with 100 miles of the border. The converse isn't even close to being true.

This isn’t a pissing contest.

The point is that Canadians understand the US far better than USians understand Canada.

i’ve lived in connecticut for 3 years. Can confirm it sucks!

maybe i should actually visit canada one day, see it with my own eyes.