In other words, I am trying to kindly offer a more nuanced take on what moving abroad entails. Not everybody is willing to admit that their past decisions had downsides -- we all want to make it look like we are successful and in charge of our lives. Our actions speak louder.
Moving abroad is often a choice. Moving back can be a lot harder once you have a spouse and children.
If they gave it a go and it didn't work out, then they know, and they would have plenty of time to course-correct. There wouldn't be any doubt.
Not in the common scenario where they have married and had children abroad.
I do know of some people who left their country for 10+ years and returned. In all cases they had married somebody of the same nationality as theirs and moved while the children were still too young to care.
In other words, the people who can easily return typically do so. Those who don't return often want but can't for one reason or another (usually their new family).
i spent 11th grade as an exchange student, so when i got a job abroad years later, i knew what i was getting into.
in between i volunteered for IAESTE, an organization that helps students get internships abroad because i believed that it would be a valuable experience more students should be able to benefit from.
i left when i was young and it was the greatest experience ever. i would not miss it for the world. but my motivation was not money, it was learning. when i stop learning where i am, then i move on.
eventually i may move back to where i am from, not because it's not working out or because it would have been a mistake, but because i have run out of places to go to and also because it's time to give back.
i am now old enough that i can use my experience to influence the next generation back home to open their mind more towards the world.
I beg your pardon? Let me quote the very first comment I made in this thread.
>>>> There are pros and cons to all possibilities, whether it is staying put, traveling as a tourist, or immigrating in a foreign country.
This is in contrast to some of the claims made by others in this thread, such as:
> I always say to younger people that they should try to move out in their 20s-30s, see the world
> in my opinion everyone should spend at least one year abroad somewhere just for the experience.
That said, I am glad things are working out for you. I am just trying to warn people that immigration also has its downsides in spite of popular memes.
Just for curiosity, did you marry abroad? Have children abroad? Did your parents die while you lived there?
(FWIW, I disagree: there is tremendous value in travelling, even if just as a tourist. The main issue is having the resources to do it, which I think is frequently underestimated. Where I personally call home is quite different from where I grew up, but unlike the OP I don't have any particular family ties to a single area, because my family is very spread around, having all settled elsewhere after travelling for work, study, or just for something different. I also have never found someone who regretted moving, even the case of two different people I know who went to the effort of moving the the US and then finding they really don't like it, and moving back within months, don't regret the experience, even if it was expensive)
This is how the thread went from my perspective:
> [Them] I used to do something and then stopped. My life is fantastic now. That said, I recommend everybody to do what I stopped doing; I have never met anybody who regretted doing it.
> [Me] If it is so great, why did you stop? There are pros and cons to both doing and not doing it
> [Others] But doing that thing is so great! Everybody should do it!
> [Me] Here are some of the common long-term downsides of doing that thing...
> [Others] Don't claim this happens to everybody! Doing that thing is so great! Everybody should do it!