I tried sparkmail but it's a little much for non-business purposes to be honest.

- My wife and I each have our own email addresses

- We have a third email address that we share with the school (etc.); this email address is not a real inbox but a forwarding address that sends mail to the first two

- When email is sent TO this address, the default is to reply FROM the address

- When email is sent FROM this address, an Auto BCC rule sends a copy to the other spouse

In this way we both get our own personal email addresses, but we have a shared address that goes to both of us, and we know if an email sent to that address has been replied to, what the reply was, etc.

Paid service - but with all the features + privacy of not being on Google (Well, anything going to my gmail still goes through - but slowly moving away) + they have excellent and fast customer support - all makes it worth it.

I don’t really get where to configure the auto bcc rule when sending emails from third email address.

Thanks

i just have 1 [email protected] email id that i use everywhere. everyone is logged in to that email

i use backblaze b2 for backups which are taken automatically. this costs me something stupid, like $15/year for vps and $12/year for domain if i remember correctly.

have to occasionally update the server by ssh which takes 5 minutes every 6-10 months.

I think I can do something like $25 or $50 a year for an email address that's basically a distribution group w/ some smart routing for replies and something similar for sms.

Use cases as varied as shared accounts, everyone getting grocery delivery notifications, etc.

I too have thought of a shared comms channel for all "incoming family business" SMS & Email would be a good start, but WhatsApp is a non-negligible channel as well.

And dont get any parent started on the 35 different School/Club apps etc

We use Migadu, which allows you to have as many mailboxes as you want with any plan, so it’s pretty cheap.

So, what usually happens: 1. Both of us get email

2. One of us sees email before other, may or may not do something about it

3. Possibly one of us fwds the email to the other, creating two copies in one inbox.

4. It's not always clear if (2) results in something happening. And by that I don't mean in (2) that one of us said we would do it. Instead, I'm thinking one step further: we needed to pick a Parent-Teacher conference. How do we know we did it?

5. At some point we might archive/delete emails

6. Many of these emails contain admin dates. Things like half-days, dismissal changes, etc. Usually with dates/times that then need to go into a calendar. So, we try to send each other calendar invites (from personal Gmails) to handle.

#6 is often the real problem. We're looking into the Skylight Calender. Some people swear by it. I hear people like Cozi but that app is a mess.

I wrote about my setup here: https://www.commithash.com/posts/a-better-way-to-share-email...