Point being, you've claimed as "absolute" something that is very clearly and absolutely not true.
Moreover than one single example of what a daft bit of absolutism the comment contained should prompt in any reasonable thinking person a host of other counter examples.
John Oliver - British dweeb with a high pitch voice and glasses? Married. For more than a decade. To a smoking hot former US Army medic.
Pretty sure Oliver can't bench press.
Adam Hills, Alex Brooker & Josh Widdicombe - host a disabled talk show (The Last Leg), Adam's missing a foot, Alex also along with flipper hands, and Widdicombe's an asthmatic. All married. With kids.
We can go on for a very long time here.
It's just a very stupid claim to make.
I've never been a "strong" man, physically or behaviourally. Bit of a joker sometimes, but mostly quiet, somewhat emotional. It never caused an issue. Of course, some women won't be attracted to that personality type, but then that'll be true in all directions.
I don't know, maybe it's the men and women who use the dating apps? Or maybe the problem is something else that you're doing?
But even 40 years ago counter cultural hippies were doing fine. Maybe there was a dry spell of that in the 90s but certainly modern women are open to "nontraditional" men, especially once you look outside the west. E.g. what a westerner would consider "effeminate" is usually considered attractive in men in South Korea.
In the west there's certainly a large portion of women that find "nontraditional" men attractive.
Women don't like men that act outside of the narrow box of masculine behaviour. Act weak, wear pink or be a homemaker and absolutely no woman would date you.