An individual has no obligation to respect a societal order that doesn't respect them back.
Why do you say that? Most individuals that aren't respected by society had that respect, yet lost it through some action (like dealing drugs).
I think we're seeing things in different frameworks, and I'm considering the end result more important than the principles here. If you don't accept that some seemingly individual decisions have a cumulated effect on society long-term, and that shaming is the only mechanism to make changes here, there really is no discourse possible.
Drug dealers are also part of society, yet we still frown upon them.