It's the desire towards widely accepted societal norms, and a pushback against disrupting long-established acceptable norms.
2) The same applies to Black on Black crime, except hundredfold. The same applies to violence against straight White people. Every group suffers from targeted violence — an no amount of data to prove how disproportionate it is makes any instance more right/justified than another.
Similar to your wishes, I hope there's a day when random White people on the street aren't mobbed by dozens, if not hundreds, of people who aren't White. I've lost count how many videos I've seen of this happening. I'd love to see a world where transgender teenagers and young adults aren't motivated to shoot up Christian schools. I'd love to see no discriminatory violence at all someday — but it cannot come at the cost of marginalizing majority groups who are just trying to live normal lives too, and too often, it does.
1) Nowhere, in history, does "government actively enforcing a different private life against one's will" mean "you are forced to live or participate in a transgender life". For the entirety of history government and corporations have actively forced "different" people like Lynn to conform to your expectations of them. See Lynn being fired from IBM.
2) "To say they are at risk is an outright lie". The rhetoric and social norms around the existence of transgender people enables violent people to murder them. They are absolutely actively at risk. What other phrase, besides "at risk", would you use to explain that transgender people are 4 times more likely to be murdered. They are literally killed for being different and because we dehumanize them.
I look forward to the day that what you say is true. That there are people who oppose those choices but that transgender people can live a free and public life without being murdered for being themselves. I think what you're putting forward sounds great.