If I think the same of women, I do not believe that we would typically look down on them or consider them bad people in the same way for being somehow deficient in capability (IE; "a loser") or shirking responsibility if they decided to do those things.
In this sense, those opportunities can be considered effectively closed to them.
I admit I don't know too much about the house-husband or the creative endeavor.
Is your notion then that you did not face social stigma? That would be an interesting counter-anecdote to what I said, may I ask where you live?
But it's a much more competitive option for men than it is for women. (That is, a man attempting to fill this role will face much tougher competition than a woman trying to do the same thing. It's not that the option is competitive with other options.)
Of course you will find some outlier situation where one gender can do the same as another. This is not helpful and not the course of discussion. We're talking about what actually happens statistically, now and for generations.
Men are not the same as Woman, they aren't now, never have been and never will be.