I have a M3 Pro MacBook Pro for work that I also swap between on the display using the single cable that I remove from one to plug into the other. The laptop travels with me to work where it plugs into a 16:9 4k 60hz monitor while it's open. I have the same clamshell issue as my personal laptop where I have to open it once after plugging it in, but otherwise it works pretty well.
I do however have to do some workspace rearranging when I go from clamshell->ultrawide to my work setup of open lid->16:9 monitor. But that's no a huge deal since I'm going from 1 screen to 2 screens.
I dock at home into a dual monitor setup.
I go to work and dock into a dual monitor setup.
I keep my MacBook open, not closed.
Pretty much all my coworkers do the same. All with Apple silicon MacBook pros. No idea what you’re talking about.
I believe you — I just think you need to do a deeper dive into your kit instead of assuming the rest of the world must be wrong about these machines.
The macbook is amazing when considered in isolation. Trying to use it in a workstation setting is definitely 'holding it wrong', which drives me nuts. Wasted potential and definitely undeserving of the 'Pro' moniker.