I think the lack of redundancy is the issue. Redundant electrical connections can be very robust otherwise they wouldn't put them in F-35s.

Fighter jets are falling out of the sky quite often. Compare to airbus passanger jets instead.

Partial control failures on passenger jets are not that uncommon.

But no ejection seats to escape a collision.

Anywhere in aviation it's redundant transducers (the thingies that transform rotation into some sort of signal), redundant flight law computers implemented by independent teams on dissimilar hardware, a stupidly robust vote/compare module, I think mostly analog, and usually a last resort direct mode.

When all of that is implemented in cars and weathers for 10-20 years I might consider it.

Otherwise, seeing as Toyota's regen braking code had like 10k global variables, I'm not touching that with at 10 foot pole.

Acceleration/braking can be quite bad but there's normally neutral and ignition switches. With steering there's literally nothing between you cruising along a highway and you splattered on some concrete pillar 200ms later.

That is more than likely generated code. Model based development and code generation (by certified toolchains) are the norm in automotive and aerospace.

Nope, all hand-written apparently.

The F-35 took like 25 years and a staggering amount of billions to develop...

Fly by wire has been a thing since the 80s, F-18 IIRC. At some point we'll have drive by wire, it just makes sense.

This doesn't necessarily follow. Planes became pressurized and got oxygen masks, it's very unlikely that cars ever do. Having steel cables and/or hydraulic lines for the 4-6 dimensions of aircraft controls adds up to some serious extra weight worth fighting for on a plane, while one steel rod might never be more problematic than the heap of problems its absence creates.

As long as the steering wheel is there it might as well be connected to the rack, forever.

EVs can have multiple motors and those motors can be very close to wheels, maybe even inside wheels.

It stops making sense to have a bunch of rods zigzagging everywhere.

Motors have nothing to do with this, you still have to have the suspension struts, and the wheels still have to be mechanically linked by the tie rod and usually the sway bar.

Also inside the wheels makes no sense at all, google unsprung weight.