Re:The game theory of seduction and marriage with Jane Austen
by throwaway290 on Saturday February 17, 2024 @12:13PM
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Have you been at a bar or club or stayed at a hostel or uni dorm? I assure you, out there many hookups and short-term relationships start in person. And long ones do too.
Re:The game theory of seduction and marriage with Jane Austen
by paulryanrogers on Saturday February 17, 2024 @02:20PM
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In-person starting venues appear to be more scarce -- or have higher entry thresholds -- than in times past. I'm not so sure it's guaranteed to be better for everyone and everywhere.
Re:The game theory of seduction and marriage with Jane Austen
by lazide on Saturday February 17, 2024 @03:04PM
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That it’s getting harder doesn’t mean it isn’t valuable - any more than being in a neighborhood full of fast food restaurants and no grocery stores means eating at home isn’t valuable.
It sure does say something about the neighborhood though, doesn’t it?
It’s about more information and context (and truth), before moving forward. Which is important when you’ve got something to lose.
And it takes time. Which is a good thing, as it tends to weed out a lot of noise.
Tinder does eventually go to in-person yes - but it puts the cart before the horse IMO by putting the pitch first, and doing selection based on that.
It’s a lot smarter, in my experience, seeing the ‘reality’ first, and then seeing what the pitch is.
I’ve personally learned (and seen it from many others) that is far more important when looking for a long term relationship - and in my experience I’m not alone.
But everyone is different, and it certainly can work out well otherwise.
But you don’t see anyone who has something to lose going to the casino when they have money to invest - at least not over and over again.