Negative mindset

That great, at least it is a blocker that depends on you and that you can control.

Please though, we shouldn't pretend there aren't things we cannot fix that prevent us from not being lonely.

This sentence has too many negations even for me.

There are barriers to loneliness that cannot be addressed by the individual experiencing it.

And yes, it was poorly worded. It's early and I skipped caffeine this morning because of activity.

Regardless, some people might not "fit in" socially because of age, skin color, income, or what have you - compared to the demographics of where they are living. There can be barriers that they simply cannot fix themselves.

yeah, sure you cannot hang out with top models but maybe there is a space for you somewhere.

This is a beautiful little bit

"I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member"

You talked me into it XD

but surely that negative mindset is there for a good reason, it must give you something you value, otherwise you wouldn't have developed this mechanism

good point. if you are successful it might be the feeling that people tend to always want to get something out of you which might be exhausting and a good reason to hide. Enjoy that!