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Re:Good genes are nice, but joy is better by molsongolden on Friday November 03, 2023 @04:59PM (#38134929)
I haven't read Behave and childhood trauma can definitely have lasting impacts but I am also inspired by some of the older folks I have known with what seem like bottomless wells of joy.

There's a cynical broken person out there for every one of them, they aren't the norm, but some of these people went through terrible shit as children or throughout their lives but they're still happy and grateful for what they did end up having.

Also, some of the happiest people I know come from some of the worst starting environments. This is definitely survivorship bias because these people made it out to become happy but there's some thread between the two around grit and expectations then finding joy in the most basic things.

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Re:Good genes are nice, but joy is better by brightball on Friday November 03, 2023 @06:44PM (#38136048)
It’s one of the reason I appreciate Dabo Swinney’s life story so much. He had an awful childhood, broken home, poor as dirt, his mom shared his bed in college because they were so poor.

And yet, he’s one of the most optimistic and successful leaders out there determined to show people that their conditions do not define them.

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Re:Good genes are nice, but joy is better by zlg_codes on Saturday November 04, 2023 @11:42PM (#38147904)
Survivorship bias is strong. We only hear about the ones who 'make it'. Little more than footnotes for the countless who don't. Normies believe some people don't deserve a good life.
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