Re:Why children of married parents do better, but America is...
by pixl97 on Sunday October 22, 2023 @07:46PM
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And conversely why is there no counter for men being stay at home rather than women? Other than a few month around the time of childbirth there is little reason for the woman to be the stay at home partner.... this is why I doubt the motivation behind the people saying "oh its just women's preference" since surely some sizable portion of men would also like to have this option.
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Re:Why children of married parents do better, but America is...
by ndriscoll on Sunday October 22, 2023 @08:45PM
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There has been some progress in that area over the last 30 years; the percent of stay-at-home dads has ~doubled, and now 18% of stay-at-home parents are dads, up from 11% 30 years ago[0]. There are certainly people pushing to normalize SAHDs in addition to calling for gender parity with paternity leave.
That said, women are still almost 2x likely to prefer homemaking[1] even with the social engineering, and I suspect women's preferences are stronger than men's (e.g. I think it would be nice to be a SAHD, and I'd prefer it over outside work, but we probably wouldn't be together if my wife weren't the SAHM). So as a man you have to be prepared to accept that that's how the world is. Someone has to bring in money, and it'll probably be you.
[0] https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/08/03/almost-1-...
[1] https://news.gallup.com/poll/267737/record-high-women-prefer...
Re:Why children of married parents do better, but America is...
by em-bee on Sunday October 22, 2023 @09:05PM
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Other than a few month around the time of childbirth there is little reason for the woman to be the stay at home partner.
i think breastfeeding is still a significant factor for the first year at least. working while breastfeeding can be a challenge.