It seems inevitable though. You can’t simultaneously be invested in a relationship and indifferent to its nature. This article points out a ton of issues and largely suggests just awkwardly independently dating other people as safer. Like “if you agree that everyone’s free then everyone’s free”. But… no that sounds dumb to me. I would not bet on such myriad bonds holding up in times of difficulty. Surely it can happen. But I just don’t buy it as a sensible strategy