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Re:Don't worry about global population collapse by cryptonector on Saturday September 30, 2023 @05:40PM (#37720129)
Having children changes you right quick. It's not just that you have to change therefore you do. No, it's that it just changes you. A 20 year old dad can be much more mature than a 40 year old bachelor, but there's no reason to think that the 20 year old dad will have less fun than the 40 year old bachelor.

There are tangos (and I'm sure country western, and other songs) that are all about the protagonist having had all these ladies as a young man, but never a woman, or how they left behind the one woman who was their soul mate just to get laid with lots of others. E.g., Ansiedad, by Juan D'Arienzo:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YoHGmN9GTPM https://www.musixmatch.com/es/letras/Juan-D-Arienzo/Ansiedad...

Here's Nick Freitas talking about getting married at 19: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/u_q8-UNk4TU

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Re:Don't worry about global population collapse by Arainach on Saturday September 30, 2023 @06:03PM (#37720350)
.....and there are plenty of stories of people who got married way too early before they learned who they are and were miserable and got divorced. There are plenty of kids with horror stories of growing up in those loveless households.
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Re:Don't worry about global population collapse by bequanna on Saturday September 30, 2023 @06:37PM (#37720586)
Right.

But if you’re mature enough to debate the pros and cons of having children, you hopefully won’t be a bad parent if you do choose have kids.

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Re:Don't worry about global population collapse by cryptonector on Saturday September 30, 2023 @07:08PM (#37720836)
When a couple of 20 year olds decides to have children, they're almost certainly not mature enough, but it can and should work out.
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Re:Don't worry about global population collapse by bart_spoon on Sunday October 01, 2023 @01:03AM (#37722747)
Why are they most certainly not mature enough. Having children in the 20s or has been the standard for essentially all of human history until the last 30 years, give or take. What is it about modern society that makes human beings less fit for parenthood than every previous generation?
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Re:Don't worry about global population collapse by cryptonector on Saturday September 30, 2023 @07:07PM (#37720829)
Yes, I'm aware. It's taking a chance. Now if the two kids (for, if they are 19, 20, 21, 22, ... they are kids) have had a good education from their parents and relatives and friends, and hopefully also if those people are around and willing to help them, then they should be able to work through difficulties.
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