You’re being downvoted, but that’s pretty well supported with data. In fact it’s more skewed than 20/80. Closer to 10/90.

They're being downvoted because the very comment they're replying to contradicts it: "but that they also messaged the men almost exactly in tandem - uglier getting the most, with a steady drop as men's ranking rose.

OKCupid's own data showed that women rate men is ugly but message them anyway.

Isn’t the parent comment saying the opposite of this? That despite rating most men as ugly, it didn’t affect their messaging behavior nearly as much?

No, they are saying a bit tangential things.

Tinder's data shows "chance of approach", which is brutal for men who are not too good looking.

IIRC, OkCupid's data shows a bit different thing. The distribution of ratings determines chance of messages/likes - the larger stddev the better chances. IIRC, the most messaged men were ones with ratings characterized by bimodal distribution. Therefore, the most messaged men were not the ones with highest visual rating. I do not recall the distribution of messages, so can't comment much on that.

Just read the original article[0]. I apologize if I misstated anything in it.

[0]http://web.archive.org/web/20100725135309/http://blog.okcupi...

That data had poor epistemology, and was only really true if you're only looking at cishet monogamous men and cishet monogamous women.

>What do you do if you are average (or less) in looks and income (potential)? Prepare for a lonely existance.

You try to improve these things. Going to the gym etc, or focusing on one's career is a start.

There's a lot about redpill culture that is inexcusably execrable, but it does offer a true and practical answer to the question you have posed: do everything in your power to make yourself more attractive. Work out, get a good haircut, improve your wardrobe, develop your career, improve your social/conversation skills, have interesting hobbies. Become the best version of yourself and you will get more attention from others.

Online dating isn't a real world thing.

You want easy women? Go get a working class job that is predominantley women. Date foreigners. Go to a festival, hang out with hippies, ect.

I have no idea why men put themselves online and then complain it's a stacked deck. One of the greatest facts about real world dating is, you don't have to be the hottest guy on tinder, just the hottest guy in the room (or her mind) that night.

If Tinder sucks, get off it, women will follow when they realise the top 20% of guys dont service 80% of women.

Walk away.

Frankly the bit about dating that bothers me is that women are way too forward and pushy. Instant 'attention' is such a turn off, I cannot wait until women are more demoralized.

I was raised to pursue women, to hunt/chase for something worth getting. Women are constantly ready-to-go, a repetitive temptation and it's a constant turn off. Give me something to imagine, a skirt to chase, an air of mystery, or try and get to know me before it's "straight to the bedroom".

I don't like women as they commonly are in my experience, right now. I don't recognize them as the women I grew up with. They're just sex bots.

Well this is the most toxic thing I’ve read today.

Ha. That was the most 4chan thing I've ever read that wasn't on 4chan.

Online dating is skewed because you have no way to know what someone is really like. All you get is a picture (which may have been photoshopped), and profile data (they might be lieing. If you do date someone you want them to look good because at least if the night was a bust you got to look at someone hot.

Nope, not really, not only it makes zero sense from evolutionary perspective (especially that of humans), but it also is very specific to one specific platform, and very much determined on the way it is structured and its target audience, business model, etc.