That height fetish stuff is the domain of 5'0" white women. Basically message taller women and it doesn't matter.

Nope. It's not specific to their height and obviously not specific to their race.

The same way men on average prefer big boobs, women on average will prefer taller men. Both can't really be changed by the person but exist as attractiveness scores against a person.

It matters to people who it matters to. Not many in the grand scheme and definitely not related to race.

> It's not specific to their height

Of course it is because it's relative to how tall they are. But taller women already don't expect you to tower over them, because that's hard to find, so it's ok if you don't.

> and obviously not specific to their race.

It is within a specific ethnicity and generation. If you're in a country where the men in a specific age are short because food was scarce 2-3 decades ago, they're not all single because their women aren't attracted to them.

And depending on culture, it matters more what impresses their parents, which is being a doctor-lawyer-astronaut who owns a house.

No it's not. There is always a taller person and shorter people.

Thinking someone thinks a certain way based on their height is weird and wrong.

You are reading way too far into this and your take is incredibly wrong, not to mention racist.

"No woman will ever like you unless you're 6'" is the take that's reading way too far into dating.

Yes, it's also bad like yours.

I have literally not once in my entire life heard a woman in real life say 'oh he's so tall, that's so attractive'. That's only an internet thing. Or an outside-Western Europe thing, maybe.

How people act is often different from how they say they act. Women can be attracted to taller men without knowing that is a factor much less admitting it.

I have no idea if women really are attracted to taller men, but I know what you hear people say isn't the whole truth either.

No but, I've seen plenty of women say: I want to wear heels and still have my man be taller than me when we are dancing.

As a short man, I have heard height directly or indirectly referenced as a point of attraction more times than I can count. I’ve even had women say literally to my face I wasn’t tall enough for them.

I’m glad you haven’t had that experience. Doesn’t discount that it’s a real thing.

I remember hearing the founder of The League dating app talk about her platform, back when she was first starting out. She said it was so that women could be assured they were dating men who were in fact (1) well-educated (the name is a nod to the Ivy League), (2) made good money, and (3) were tall. The way she talked about the latter sounded a bit anti-Asian, to be honest.

Have you never heard "he has nice teeth and his arm pit doesn't stink" too? Because that's also another reason women find men attractive, they smell nice and have good teeth. Obviously we don't announce all our instincts.

This is where we could really use some empirical data to better understand these topics.

Comments already devolving into "Yes it matters!" "No it doesn't!" only citing anecdotal personal experience.

Yup

I met my wife on OKCupid (back when it was, according to this article, good). I'm 5'6".

I’m 5’4” and met my wife (5’1”) on OKC.

I will say that all the women I dated on OKC were shorter than me, likely because it’s common for women to filter by height.

I dated women who were not shorter than me, but met them IRL.