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Re:Anxious brains redirect emotion regulation by nyanpasu64 on Monday August 21, 2023 @04:25AM (#37206773)
If you say something unpleasant to a boss or someone else with the power to hurt you in life, even if it is aligned with your values (like enforcing boundaries or refusing unethical tasks), you may get fired, lose your income and destabilize your future safety, and have every reason to feel bad about your situation.
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Re:Anxious brains redirect emotion regulation by mpol on Monday August 21, 2023 @04:50AM (#37206912)
Still you might think, I did the best I could.
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Re:Anxious brains redirect emotion regulation by frereubu on Monday August 21, 2023 @05:55AM (#37207330)
Epictetus would add that you need to act in accordance with "nature", by which he meant the world as it is, including human behaviour, not as we want it to be. In this case "nature" would include the behaviour of the boss and you can act accordingly, knowing that if you challenge them you may suffer repercussions.
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Re:Anxious brains redirect emotion regulation by mindwok on Monday August 21, 2023 @06:03AM (#37207386)
I see your point but I’d argue that if you feel bad about this it means your core value is actually financial stability over sticking to your principles at any cost, and in that case your actions and intentions didn’t align with what you truly value.
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Re:Anxious brains redirect emotion regulation by lazide on Monday August 21, 2023 @08:50AM (#37208837)
Easy to say when you aren’t homeless or at risk of being made homeless.

For some folks, unfortunately, lying at times is a necessary survival mechanism.

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Re:Anxious brains redirect emotion regulation by mindwok on Monday August 21, 2023 @09:12AM (#37209104)
I'm not disagreeing with you at all. If you value financial stability over taking a stand about things you might disagree with, then lying for survival is aligned with your values. Using the ideas I described above, this would be completely acceptable for the person doing that.
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