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Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny by johnnyanmac on Friday August 04, 2023 @04:18PM (#37005307)
It really depends. a not super happy marriage also isn't automatically abusive and dysfunctional marriage either. You can probabbly think of your best and worst roomate but what about the most middle of the road? One you barely interacted with but seemed to get along with the few times you spoke. Never had problems with rent and would do their part (but not perfectly, they'd do chores if asked once).

It's safe, secure, and boring. Not happily ever after, but you get by. I think these are the kinds of relationships that break down more in an age where "meh" isn't good enough anymore. Why not strive for the best if there's no pressure disengage?

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Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny by lazide on Saturday August 05, 2023 @02:16AM (#37009466)
When no fault divorces were legalized in California, the female suicide rate dropped about 20% - and stayed that way.

[https://www.nber.org/digest/mar04/divorce-laws-and-family-vi...]

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Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny by johnnyanmac on Saturday August 05, 2023 @02:32AM (#37009534)
okay? A 20% floor for abusive marriages is honesty more optimistic than I expected.
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Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny by lazide on Saturday August 05, 2023 @02:51AM (#37009627)
Huh?
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Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny by ben_w on Friday August 18, 2023 @05:46AM (#37173353)
That number doesn't lead precisely to your conclusion, it can be higher or lower.

Current US stats are 14.04/100k, with men 3.9x more likely than women.

As the following example doesn't depend on the actual numbers, let's eyeball that and imprecisely say the married women's suicide rate was 5/100k before and 4/100k after: this is a 20% reduction, but I don't even need to look up marriage rates for it to be clear that nowhere near 20% of all marriages end in suicide.

In the other direction, suicide isn't and never was the only was out of abusive relationships. It's a desperate path for very extreme situations, and the divorce rate being much higher than 20% means there may be a correspondingly higher abuse rate.

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Re:Everyone Is Beautiful and No One Is Horny by johnnyanmac on Friday August 18, 2023 @06:08AM (#37173558)
Fair enough. I simply wanted to highlight the middle of the road, which is often lost in the increasingly polarized online discourse. I probably shouldn't have bothered responding, given that it brought it back once again to the most extreme option to escape what is likely the worst marriages
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