Building on your analogy, it'd be like if in the real world your local pub mates and your business friends met. These are two different communities that most certainly cannot be welded into a single forum.
>I suspect (maybe hope?) we are going to start seeing organic social start happening as groups start trying to increasingly assert their own identities and moderation policies that are incompatible with a global standard.
I think this is exactly what you're seeing. Of all the different social media models, personally, it's reddit and discord that won out for me, along with a smattering of more niche like Hacker News and the discussions page on Github.
You can't and shouldn't build a community that satisfies everybody.
This is solved by people just make another profile to keep it separate. It is okay not to add your mother on your hobby account.
>These are two different communities that most certainly cannot be welded into a single forum.
But sites like Facebook are not just a single forum. Each group can be it's own community. People can keep two discussions separate.
Note that Facebook and many other social media sites go out of their way to prevent the same person having two accounts. It is against their terms of service, and they do try to enforce it in various ways.
In your example the problem was that someone's mom was reading all of their posts and not that they wanted to use different login information for each profile.
Still, the comment above used both profile and account to refer to the same thing ("create a new profile", "your hobby account") so I'm not even sure which they were suggesting.
A "baseline" where, as mentioned above, misogynistic, racist behaviour isn't allowed sounds easy. But is it though? You take what Nazis and racists have said for ages and put "Russian" instead of their victim of choice and suddenly most Americans will agree that's fine behaviour "because Ukraine".
How about age limits, alcohol, sex? Hell, even Americans couldn't agree on a baseline in those.
I don't know if you're American but as I said I'm not and the internet has teached me how to behave as one online to not be caught in strange Americanised moderation rules. That's not agreement but enforcement that's caused this and if asked I would vote No to those rules.
I doubt you could get just American communities to agree.
Large social media sites are a pale shadow of an actual community. These sites love to throw that word around to get you to sign up, then act like properly moderating their sites to actually feel like a community is impossible.
To me, it seems very inorganic outside of specific platform niches that allow for self moderation of subsets of the network (Reddit somewhat, IRC, discord, Mastadon, etc.). A single globally shared moderation policy with local deviances to accommodate local customs and laws does not seem “organic” as much as forced.
Compare this to the real world.
If I go to my local business networking group, there is one set of moderation policies that is strictly enforced.
If I go to my local pub, there is a very different set of moderation policies that is loosely enforced.
If I went to my business networking group and behaved as if I was under the moderation policies of my local pub the contrast in behavior would be stark.
Church has one set, school another, the local swingers club another, the gentleman’s club another, etc.
Compare this to many social media platforms where it seems like the moderation policies attempt to moderate a baseline of behavior consistently across all communities regardless of whether they are pubs, business groups, or otherwise.
I suspect (maybe hope?) we are going to start seeing organic social start happening as groups start trying to increasingly assert their own identities and moderation policies that are incompatible with a global standard.