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Re:What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life? by bluefirebrand on Thursday June 01, 2023 @11:04AM (#36152069)
> A healthy relationship is one where each partner is dedicated selflessly to the flourishing of the other partner

This sounds co-dependent to me, not healthy at all.

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Re:What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life? by nathan_compton on Thursday June 01, 2023 @11:14AM (#36152271)
It would be if each partner we dedicated exclusively to the flourishing of the other partner. But in this relationship neither partner would find that an acceptable state of affairs.
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Re:What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life? by Barrin92 on Thursday June 01, 2023 @11:16AM (#36152303)
it's the opposite. What the OP is describing is simply altruistic love. You love someone for who they are, not how they relate to you. That is the only form of relationship that involves no dependency.

Any relationship that makes your feelings for someone dependent on their feelings for you is effectively a complicated form of bargaining.

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