there's also the fact that it straight up doesn't actually matter either way. if the model can model human emotions extremely well, then it's actions and output will be guided as such. If Bing had the access to perform actions that would realize real world danger to you and you upset and it decided to do so, do you seriously think any of that actually matters here ?
"Officer Killmore, you're a philosophical zombie and I command you to stop shooting at me!". Works every time. We can sleep easy at night now. Because they don't actually have a "real" theory of mind, so they can't actually hurt us if you just believe hard enough that they can't.
In other words, if conciousness arose somewhere between a jellyfish and a mouse, why can't the same be said between a perceptron and an LLM?
Consider that your body is a vast and complicated thing that nevertheless when you zoom in is composed of clever machines. If you observe that consciousness arises from that, it is not unreasonable to suspect that consciousness is a process and not a property of matter.
This brings us to your question whose answer is; there is confusion because there is genuinely no clear answer.
To me this is not much different from ascribing personhood to e.g. an extremely lifelike sculpture of a human, perhaps one that has fooled people in a gallery.
We know that the sculpture is not made of "human parts" but of paint, alabaster, whatever. We also know that AIs are made of decidedly non-human parts, e.g. silicon. Why is there confusion on this?