Solution: don’t have kids.
You already knew this beforehand.
Hope you have a better weekend than this and that you maybe spend some time working on yourself.
Of course it isn't as simple as just not having kids.
That's probably for the best since you and your wife are going to spend the next two decades constructing another active labor force member - every one of whom is precious to us as a society.
This is demonstrably false - we have had how many school shootings this year? We have a "light truck exemption" that kills pedestrians and makes our vehicles an ever heavier competition (nobody wants to drive a small car if everyone else has a tank). We have the worst life expectancy of all rich nations - by a LONG shot. Our neonatal care is atrocious. We have no maternity leave. "Kids can work in meat packing plants at 14" is being honestly discussed.
Kids are a talisman, invoked to do anything except actually help them.
Healthcare and mandatory expenses can destroy one's life in America.