Same but with snoring. If I can hear someone snoring I won't fall asleep due to irrational hatred towards that person.

The only exception to this rule is people who snore at hostels. I hate them rationally

Make it their problem and wake them up. No reason to suffer in silence.

I don't stay in hostels anymore but honestly don't understand this mindset "I'll spoil other's sleep to save a few dollars".

If someone reading my comment does this, please know that in every dorm there could be people fantasizing about your death

> I have a strong, strong, flight or fight aversion to the sounds of people eating with their mouth open. Like, measurably increases my heartrate, adrenaline spike.

Same, except I can feel hatred bubbling up from the pit of my soul.

Also, when people talk and you hear their tongue moving around, touching the saliva coated interior of their mouths. The old people in Ken Burns' WWII documentary were the worst about it.

When you work in a hospital, encounters with staff that manage airways often cracked me up.

Any gross noises from the patients and they attack the patient with suction and then watch with satisfaction as the phlegm/saliva fill the transparent suction tube.

Same.

This drives me insane to the point of internal anger and disgust, but there's litte I can do about it. Nobody else gets it when I politely ask. I just have to bear the pain.

I'm susceptible to a few types of sounds I loathe:

- food/eating/mouth noises

- off-key singing

- chalkboard scraping (I think most people have an aversion to this)

These have been with me since a very young age and have never gone away.

The worst for me is when people’s teeth bite down on silverware.

Its exactly how you described

that sounds really terrible.

to be a victim of your own reactions, to be aware of the irrationality of such reactions.

> I'm aware this is fundamentally a "your brain is wired different" issue

that's one way to think about it, but it doesn't seem conductive to being able to change this. Unless you believe in adult brain plasticity (and AFAIK the plasticity adult brains is still being debated)

My point is that it's a learned response, to get so pissed of about this. and that being aware is but the first step towards being able to chose how you respond to those stimuli; oh and that it's not easy and it can take a while for your new changed choices to become automatic

> My point is that it's a learned response

What made you think it’s a learned response? It’s unequivocally not.

Yes and no. There's some degree of nurture here, for sure. But there's some degree of nature.

Misophonia is common in folks with autism, for instance. While there are techniques and strategies for living with autism, it's simply not something one can learn their way out of.

Some of us do have neural connections that have hard wired responses to certain stimuli.

I had this issue show up suddenly, but atter the past 10 years or so it has gotten a bit better. I know longer am managing rage if I know the person is stuffed up or following their cultural norms.

I think it is very similar to road rage, which can normally be defused by communication or sympathy.

Chewing with your mouth open is just bad manners. What are the uncivilized cultures that accept that?

Is this like one of those "some people go to Walmart in pyjamas" things? That honestly sounds ridiculous to me.