Need help with students who've turned my class into a dating service

Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by GalenErso on Monday January 30, 2023 @10:15PM (#34590401)

As a woman, I can speak on experience that women will run away from any space men try to invade to seek us, whether it's dating apps, classes, bars, etc. The last thing I want is for a horde of thirsty men to chase me.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by ShredKazoo on Monday January 30, 2023 @10:35PM (#34590552)

Are you trying to meet a guy at all? If so, how would you like it to happen? How does finding dates work, in your ideal world?

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by noogle on Monday January 30, 2023 @10:37PM (#34590572)

Which is why the general advice to men "adopt a hobby" to meet a girl generally doesn't work. It's transparent and therefore defeats its purpose.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by tiahura on Monday January 30, 2023 @10:24PM (#34590481)

You mean ugly men, right?

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by dang on Sunday February 05, 2023 @11:27PM (#34673344)

I'm sorry for getting to this so late, but you've been breaking HN's guidelines repeatedly by posting unsubstantive and/or flamebait comments and using the site for ideological battle (which is not allowed, regardless of ideology). We ban accounts that do these things, so would you please stop?

I'm not banning you right now because you've also posted good things, but if you'd please review https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and fix this, we'd appreciate it.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by CyberDildonics on Monday January 30, 2023 @10:19PM (#34590446)

Then why are there so many women on dating apps, in bars and in classes?

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by GalenErso on Monday January 30, 2023 @10:23PM (#34590474)

Men far outnumber women on dating apps.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by CyberDildonics on Tuesday January 31, 2023 @11:24AM (#34597212)

There are still hundreds of millions of women on dating apps, so I'm not sure your generalization holds.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by GalenErso on Tuesday January 31, 2023 @11:27AM (#34597256)

There are not hundreds of millons of unique, real women on dating apps, because there would be billions of men on dating apps given the statistical gender ratios of mainstream apps.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by CyberDildonics on Tuesday January 31, 2023 @11:45AM (#34597504)

https://www.datingadvice.com/online-dating/dating-site-male-...

With over 512 million users, Badoo is easily among the most popular dating apps in the world.

This is like someone who walks to work claiming that no one drives cars.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by GalenErso on Tuesday January 31, 2023 @11:56AM (#34597670)

I stand corrected. Thanks.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by OgAstorga on Monday January 30, 2023 @10:25PM (#34590482)

clubs are specifically designed for this

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by honkler on Monday January 30, 2023 @11:01PM (#34590832)

all men or only ugly men?

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by cpach on Monday January 30, 2023 @11:58PM (#34591362)

This trope is getting tiresome.

Having successful interactions with potential partners and forming relationships is really not about looking like Brad Pitt. Trust me, I know.

And I don’t say this just to try to be politically correct.

It’s easy for young people to fall into this delusion, but there’s much more to it than looks.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by honkler on Monday January 30, 2023 @11:58PM (#34591368)

excuse me! are you negating my LIVED EXPERIENCE??

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by cpach on Tuesday January 31, 2023 @12:03AM (#34591398)

No. I’m telling you: Even if you don’t have great looks, you still have a chance. Isn’t that great?

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by honkler on Tuesday January 31, 2023 @12:09AM (#34591428)

There's a chance for everything. A gold laden meteor might land in my backyard in the next ten minutes. There's a chance for that too. There's also a 1 in 1000 chance to get laid on tinder. You'd have to swipe a thousand times to get a single swipe back. Is that humanly possible? You'd have to be a robot for that. And a heartless one -- making sure that none of those many constant rejections affect you emotionally.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by cpach on Tuesday January 31, 2023 @12:16AM (#34591466)

Dating can be rough, that’s for sure. I hope you will find what you’re looking for. Best of luck.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by noogle on Tuesday January 31, 2023 @08:10AM (#34594591)

You miss one thing - positive feedback. It's easier to be laid-back and relaxed when "the world smiles at you" at first sight for your looks. When others treat you like a creep for any move you make, you eventually become bitter or intense, which as you said, repels people regardless of looks.

The dating experience of (heterosexual) men and women is worlds apart. Being on the non-initiating side blinds women to the amount of rejection involved in the process. Men, on the other hand, are not exposed to the amount of unwanted attention it involves since men only interact when they initiate.

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Re:Need help with students who've turned my class into a dat... by jojobas on Tuesday January 31, 2023 @12:36AM (#34591593)

Men invade dating apps to seek women? Colour me shocked, run for your lives!

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