The best way I've heard to explain the difference is men are dying of thirst in a desert and woman are dying of thirst in an ocean.

I hope the depth of that analogy is intentional.

I think women get it when they experience the same thing in their 40s.

It's definitely different. But difficult is subjective.

Personally, I prefer the experience as a male. Instead of getting flooded with goofs, I can focus on a small amount of matches.

I think the most damaging reality of these apps is when a man who himself thinks he's low-value and doesn't understand how to improve only gets a few matches from the algo of women who are below average attractiveness.

I'm going to get flamed for this but in general I think it's right to assume that the average woman in 2022 is less attractive than the average man, BMI / height stats support this.

This outcome generally signals to at-risk men (in terms of mental state) that women they would find attractive have all swiped left on them only leaving below average or physically unfit women. It's also entirely likely that they might just not be desire-able on dating apps and in fact, are only matched with people who don't have standards. That said, I think standards are important on both sides AND I've had men far more attractive than me also encounter a situation of only having a handful of matches even in NYC.

> I'm going to get flamed for this but in general I think it's right to assume that the average woman in 2022 is less attractive than the average man, BMI / height stats support this.

What's your definition of attractive height…?

Definitely 6' and up - and I'm shorter than that. It's pretty obvious, but I don't lose sleep about it. I also meant BMI relative to height, not height in general. Statistics don't lie in terms of what each population generally finds attractive.

> Definitely 6' and up

For women? Maybe in the Netherlands.

For men.