Let’s not mix up teminology and semantics. What a number here is is quite clear, we’re all talking about relatively standard math, the standard axiom of choice, and not some opinion on numbers. Sure, you can also say a planet is a mammal »depending on what you think a mammal is«, but that doesn’t lead to any sort of fruitful discussion.
My point is that infinity is certainly not an individual number. It represents quite a few concepts, all of which have some number like qualities.
Sure, maybe. I think saying "infinity is a number" is wrong regardless. I'm happy with aleph-0 being a number, and I'm happy with it having a label of infinity. I'm just not happy with treating infinity as a single thing. We're totally on the same page in every way that matters though. I'm also certainly with you on questioning Retric's comment for a number of reasons, haha.
edit: Actually...I'm not so sure they mean aleph-0. I think frequently they mean the infinity of the extended real line. Maybe it depends on the context of the conversation.
Note that this view is common but not universal: https://cs.nyu.edu/pipermail/fom/2023-January/023710.html
It depends on what you think a number is. Most people who think about it agree a number is the name that we give to equinumerate sets, so two eggs and two ducks are equinumerate, we can give a bijection between these sets; they have the same property, "twoness" and we abstract twoness to the number 2. If so, then infinity is a number, it this the number-ness of the set {1, 2, 3, ... }