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Re:Why Tipping Is Impossible to Get Rid of in America by gambiting on Friday January 20, 2023 @03:36PM (#34459544)
As someone who visited America on a business trip - my biggest shock was when we went to a restaurant, and the server we had was downright rude(and it wasn't even just my observation, our American hosts also agreed with this). So at the end of the meal, I said - well the server was rude, that means we don't tip, right? To which our American hosts went "no no, that would make you look like a dick - just tip less, like 10%, that will show them".

I still think about this interaction to this day. I don't think the system "washes out" anyone - because(based on my single and anecdotal experience) people will tip no matter what, because otherwise they might look bad.

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Re:Why Tipping Is Impossible to Get Rid of in America by LarryMullins on Friday January 20, 2023 @03:50PM (#34459741)
I think the reaction from your American hosts was either unusual, or they privately disagreed with your assessment of the server's rudeness. Maybe that is a restaurant they wanted to return to later and didn't want to burn bridges.

I don't hesitate to refuse a tip if the server is truly rude, but I'll also not return to that restaurant for a long time. This has only happened a handful of times in my life. If the service is neutral then I'll leave a neutral tip, usually 15% unless the total is low and rounds up to a nice whole number.

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