As for the work thing and being lazy - I strongly believe lazy isn’t a core trait so much as a symptom of core traits and your environment. I imagine if you’re interested in something, your “laziness” suddenly evaporates, though I accept that I could be wrong.

I used to think I was lazy and resented it about myself so much. I’ve come to realize that I’m actually extremely dysfunctional when confronted with uninteresting work. It’s not like I think I shouldn’t have to do it. I believe work is inherently good for us, assuming it’s pro social and beneficial to the worker and community. It’s part of how we support the people around us. I have no problem with that and I like the idea. Nonetheless, my brain goes haywire when I need to do an excruciatingly boring thing for the 200th time.

Part of what made me realize this is discovering the extent I will go to engineer ways out of doing work I don’t like. That’s not lazy at all.

As for holding a job, the notion of a “full cup” (or an empty one) in psychology is a useful analogy to use: doing things which energizes us fills the cup (exercise, play, sex, good nourishment, rest), while other things like unsatisfying work, dysfunctional relationships, not enough rest, bad nourishment, etc. will drain the cup. If you’re running on empty, holding or getting a job is a monolithic challenge. Don’t doubt how hard it is. Everything is on hard mode. It’s already hard enough for many of us, but ADHD makes this kind of thing seem insurmountable at times. A common response is to do nothing because it’s hard to imagine where to even begin.

I can’t speak for you, but you might be underestimating what you’re up against. This is easy to do because you’re surrounded by people who minimize what you’re dealing with (often without realizing it at all).